"Hey SYG, mind if I'm aggressive to anyone who calls me out on being a twat to and about my 'friends'?"

SYG: "Hey, why not?"

Honestly, bandmates aren't hard to find, and you're hardly playing Stockhausen. Suck it up, find someone else.

It's not yuppie, it's reality. A sad reality for some that choose to not go this route for whatever reason, but reality non-the-less.

He's at an age to age to where finding a significant other will be more important than a band that, statistically speaking, won't last all that long anyways.

I can understand both end of the spectrum.

People should do what makes them happy, though. If this guy is really yr friend, and if he is truly digging this girl, why not just be happy for him and like that prick glice said, look into finding other people to jam with.

Why the hell should having a girl prevent someone from practicing once a week though? I know how much he likes to play music and I find the situation sad. He isn't secure enough to leave her alone.

one of my friends who is a in a band that are signed and tour the world and stuff and has the problem of one of his band mates always trying to prioritise his girlfriend over the band said to me recently that in life you get to choose between adventure and comfort, and i think that's a fairly true statement. God knows why someone would choose comfort.
When you start a band and want to actually achieve stuff it can be bloody frustrating if the people you play with are not as commited as you, particularly if you have good chemistry, and especially if the reason they aren't commited is because they've become pussy whipped.

That is a good analogy to my situation.

Also, all these pussy whipped dipshit married men are not entitled to an opinion.

You should sleep well at night just because of the fact that he can't handle having a girlfriend and also play music. That is a warning sign that later on he will regret it and become bitter because he's missing out on certain aspects of his own personality and he's not able to have fun, as well as having a girlfriend. In my experience all couples that aren't able to retain a part of themselves to share with the outside world become a pain in the arse to be around with and too often just become plain boring.

Excellent point. I had my doubts about him being "road worthy" anyway.

Moral of the story: I need to move on and find serious musicians

I practice three nights a week, tour occasionally.
It took 20 years to finally get into the best band of my life, and we all have relationships.
If people know you are a musician and they ask you to give it up like it's something "expendable," it is a pretty strong indicator that they are not "right" for you.
Conversely, if you willingly give up your creative outlet because someone asks you to, you are basically a hobby-level artist at best and should probably stay in your basement anyway.

zorak (who is my friend despite my hatred of him) continues to burn my hats, leaving me, my head, and my antique hat rack, dissapointed.

realizing that one's bandmate/s are really in the band more as a hobby than a passion is a suck ass realization.

It is indeed a total bummer. He is a talented musician.

kick his ass with your radioactive camel hump.

well, you're just jealous to be honest.

i really doubt he is that insecure he won't leave her alone to practice, he just wasn't interested anymore.

Not when he goes from "let's form a band" pre girlfriend to "I'm too old for a band" and texting her on every break during practice. It's sad but I realize I will be better off without him.

no offense but, grow up???

Thanks for the great advice! :cool:
I'm obviously upset about this, no need to twist the knife.

yeah, well.

we need better examples of friends being shit.

This same guy was my roommate for about a year. For his birthday I gave him a fairly large joint. 20 minutes later I walk by his room and he is smoking it alone. This was after he moved to my city, basically broke, and I let him stay rent free the first two months.

I think I'm starting to see a pattern.

My friend got on with his life well before I started whinging like a child about him on the internet. Can you believe that guy? I'm never talking to him again.