holy shiz yer pregnant? have fun. serisoulsy. kids are cool as fuck. I got 5 nephews and they are here just about everyday. They're a blast.

And you're not?

oh but of course, the classic response, turn my own statement against me.

i am not looking forward to being a DDDDDDDDDDDD

ahahahahah that's rad, i just ordered one

are you suggesting that saturnine would lie for the sole purpose of attention whoring?

wow, you're an arsehole.

eh, baby mama, i almost forgot--- make sure the husband handles all catshit & litterbox duties, especially if your minitigers do any kind of outdoors action. yes, yes, i'm the paranoid uncle who didn't go to med school-- but this keeps you clear of toxoplasmosis.

Those kind of tests have been banned here if they're against the mother's free will.


Anyways, congrats on the baby, Lilly! I know you'll do fantastic.

yes yes yes i am very aware of this since i was about 8, i used to read medical books for fun. thanks though.

who the fuck lets their cats outside in new york city? i'm not that insane.

please tell me the namesake's lux interior

'cause that'd be badass.

partly

i like the way it sounds

It's all about paying attention to the child. Constantly. It's a lot of work, but pretty remarkably rewarding too. Love for your child eclipses sexual and friendship love by more than I could possibly have imagined. And it comes right back at you with the same intensity, so long as you send it out loud and clear. You'll be fine.

So you can cum?

oh shit. haha, i remember just a few short years ago when cantankerlilly was 'never' gonna have kids.

how exciting tho, sweet satan. can't wait for those milkjugs

that was long before i had my shit together and my only concern in life was getting fucked up and partying. i've been clean from the bad shit for 7/8 months, longest i've ever gone and i have no interest, i've long since severed my ties to all the asshole drug people i used to run around with. this child will be loved like i wasn't, it won't get shuffled around because mom can't deal with responsibility and dad's off doing his own thing. a mom and a dad who love each other and love their child. a real family.

thats great. glad to hear you are off the bad stuff.

this thread has over 180 posts.

I believe!

remember that being off everything for 7-8 months will make you feel good, but it isn't even close to how good it can get in like a 1.5-3 years time. the better food you eat (fish is like my new favourite thing, i'm garuanteed to feel good after eating fresh fish), the longer you go sober, and the healthier you become, the faster your brain can repair itself and rewire to a state were its getting its buzz from non drug activities.

i hope this doesnt come of like im giving condescending advice or anything.
because its not like i have a clue what having a babys going to be like.

sobreity is important because as im sure you know women who take drugs during pregnancy have brains that are less able to get the the massive endorphin rushes that cause the parents to bond with the baby when its born. there was a good programme on radio 4 about this once, were they interviewed parents who said things like "when we got home for the first time and held the baby it was just fantastic, an instant feeling of happiness". then some scientists explained how when the parents are in close contact with the newborn nature basically causes chemical releases in their brains that make them bond together, and thats what those parents were experiencing.

so you should almost think of it like "fuck, i may have to be sober now, but when i have this kid its going to give me a massive high!" i think this might be useful when your pregnant and sitting at home watching a film, and you get that old twitch and think "i'd love to just get high right now, just a wee bit". you can look forward to the feeling you'll get from your child which is going to be a massive, clean endorphin rush.

i'd also say - be careful not to let guilty or dissapointment with yourself push you back to saying "fuck it, im a bad person, lets get high". say a few months in your pregnancy you do have a bit too much booze, or you buy a pack of smokes when you've been off them for ages. so what - its not great but its not the end of the world. dont let it bring you down. you've done excellent so far and no matter what happens i have faith you can continue to kick ass.

ive read the drugs you were on before and what youve managed to overcome, so i have no doubt that you are one strong woman and can handle yourself.

its good to hear you are doing well. :)

bitch, i wanted to rep you for that, but the thing wouldn't let me. your best post ever.