breaking up with your best friend....
 

have you ever had to do it? why?

i'm going to have to. it's making me old. it's making me feel bad. he always tears me down and (no exaggerating) has probably said a total of 5 nice things to me in 3 years. i usually write it off because he's emotionally immature and a bit like dealing with a child sometimes, but it's taking it's toll.

Never just ended a friendship, just slowly went our own ways.

tell him he's a cunt, walk away and don't come back.

that'll be clear for him.

ps: no, i'm serious.

and i know you're right. it's just not easy. i'm attached. he's my best friend.

gg, this is funny to me in a way that i cant express with words-- oh twisted brain, please let it be clear.

anyway

my question then is-- if he's immature---what was the original attraction?
and isn't it hard enough for you having to steer already a husband and a child and make them eat with knifes and forks? why do you need a 3rd burden?

anyway, this friend of mine (a woman) recently "broke up" with another friend (another woman) because after i dont know how many years (20? they know each other from childhood) she realized the other friend was a royal bitch, a cunt of galactic scale, a toxic jackass. quite a bit of drama. i heard it all. anyway, tough titties, but good riddance.

i usually just stop calling people.

original attraction? he's super fucking funny and makes me laugh every. single. day. it's mean sense of humor too. he's also really smart. that's really about it. i learn stuff and i laugh, but i never get to say a word. he's a narcissist. i hardly ever call him. he calls me about 10 times a day. he calls to even tell me he's going to take a shit.

but you're right. you're totally right. i don't need it. i know this. just have a bitch of a time letting it go. i think it's a habit. i hate change. i've tried before, but i think i have a chance this time because he's going away for 5 months. that'll put some distance between us. despite how... not well.. he treats me... i still feel bad leaving him. then he'll have no one.

I think this will probably be for the best, but I know it won't be easy for you.
I'm sorry.

i didnt say you dont need it! well not exactly. i was just thinking that he' not your friend--he's your entertainer. you just need to lower your expectations that is all-- and enjoy the giggles. think of it as your own private radio show. friends? who needs friends? :D

thanks, sc.

last night was just... so typical of his emotional games. he called at 2.30 and woke me up (as well as the wife), and was so very drunk (he doesn't drink usually). he screamed deep purple into the phone for 5 minutes (which i thought was funny despite the ear pain) and then we had a good talk.. errrr i mean he talked and i played the supportive friend. the talk turned to people disappointing others and him saying "if you expect everyone will disappoint you... you won't be surprised". i said that he has plenty of people in his life who don't disappoint him. he named 2 of his male buddies. i said.. "what about me?" and he said ... "you disappoint me. you do stupid shit sometimes." i asked what i did and he changed the subject. i told him he hurt my feelings and he said "i don't think i really care". so i said "you disappoint me" and he said "you should expect that" and i said "i'd think i'd be used to it by now" and then said goodbye.

what was flotzi's look while all of this transpired at 230 am?

if someone is gonna disturb my wife while we lie together in the sack, it better be important-- like someone bleeding to death calling to say goodbye

let's just say he was PISSED.

ahh man, i have a two friends that are like that. not pretty.

good man. now just let him do the breakup-- of his cranium.

anyway hm he doesnt sound like your friend. sounds like he wants to get in your pants & just wants the attention.

but i'm a cynical bastard.

please tell me about them.

master blaster

anyway my psychological analyses are far too subtle to post on the internet. i'll refrain from further posting of such subtleties as they usually go way over the head of the general public. and this would require further interrogation that im not sure you'd be comfortable with. and i have some observations i'd rather not make in public.

however i'm comfortable to say this: he sounds like a pain in the ass.

the guy friend (who isn't exactly my friend now but we were good friends and now are in ok terms) is an "excentric" person that doesn't know when to stop, his other personality trait is that he can be an arrogant dick and more so nowadays, is for the most time.

she's a really good friend of mine but she looooves to suffer, always sets herself up for disappointment.

he's especially fond of being a dick to her, she gets upset, then kinda rationalizes it, says he's a dick and then starts to like him again, thinking he's so funny and cool, just to get insulted by him again.

just last night, she called me all excited that she's going to work for him and he clearly said that he didn't want to hire her because he knew she sucked, and she just laughed.

huh. sounds familiar.

edited

i feel dirty now. pm?

tss tss tss...always thinking the worse, !@#$%!

it's my policy.

but you dont know what im thinking :p

This is not a problem that should be delt with on a message board. You deal with these things by being flakey... it's common knowlege. When people are mean to you, you stop hanging out with them. If you can't do that, then maybe you should look into why you can't do that instead of coming on here and turning this into a middle school birthday party.

or get a fucking livejournal.

hey, fuckface-- while you might have some sort of a point, nobody qualified you for setting up policy of what people can and cannot post here. go fuck yourself.

Ladies and Gentlemen!
In this corner...THE ANGRY ANDEAN!

ha ha. i actually grew up on the coast.

you got a problem with it? :D

Wrestler names need not be based in fact.

oh!

that...

i've been unkindly called "mr. intensity"

can i use that?

--

ps wait

can i call you the Vegan Viking?

hang on why are u breaking up with him?
i didnt read the whole thing but u said he rings u when hes taking a shit..he sounds pretty cool.i say stay friends.

Conversely, my best friend from high school drunkly call me up and said that he missed me and what not.

So I'm gonna be chill with that fool this Christmas. Gonna get our drink on since I've never drank with him.

you're partially right, but i was more or less wanting to hear others experiences when they've had to do it.

i'm an asshole. yep.

breaking up with your brest friend is stupid
your not married to him
just see him when you want to if he annoys you
should be lucky u got someone to make u laugh
do you have other friends that are nice to you and listen to you?

yeah i do have nice friends. actually those are pretty wise words. i just had really hurt feelings from last night (he was so drunk he doesn't remember and didn't believe he'd said that). guess sometimes one needs to vent which is why i posted stupid crap. last night compounded with all the previous abuse gets tiresome, but yeah... probably smart to surround myself with the good ones, huh?

well you can surround your self with good friends
but non of them will be like your best friend that makes you laugh.
surely after so many yrs (im assuming its been a long relationship) you have grown to understand what he is like..not saying that its acceptable but if you need your nice friends go to them..but i bet they dont ring you when they are going to do a shit.

and plus he was drunk... shit like that happens

yeah, like it's you duty to put up with drunken assholes.

*sarcasm off*

take your own advice, fuckface.

i really had no idea this thread was worthy of drama!

and honestly ... i don't see how it's really any different than half the shit posted here.

tried and true:

i just stop talking to the friend if i don't want to be around them or i just act really snobby just to put them off. i'm bad at breaking up with anybody so i just let them break up with me.

I have a friend who used to behave a bit like that, from time to time. Everytime we would meet up, a good time was had by both, but I generally felt like I was the one doing all the listening and the cheering up, and her just being left thinking that I was strong enough to sort myself out all the time (which I generally am).

It got to a point when I was having some serious problems and she started hanging out with a, erm, colourful crowd, so when I felt at my weakest she was a little too out of it to be there for me. I never said anything, but I kind of progressively kept my distance from all her problems because I couldn't/wouldn't know what to say. That long distance seemed to have worked, and now we have re-aquainted, but with the added knowledge that while we stayed away from each other we both did some growing up, and kind of realized that it takes two to tango.

Some people are just like that, unfortunately. They never seem to understand when their own ego is going too far, therefore they end up all the more surprised when a close friend has had enough of their attitude. Perhaps you need to keep a bit of distance from said friend, avoiding arguments and words that you might regret saying to each other. Once you have both learned to live apart, you can relax and re-join. Good luck.

for being the Devil's favorite girl, you sure have a hard time tellng people to fuck themselves.

it's easy. watch:


fuck yrself, twat.

RACIST.