Multiple partners relationships
 

Do you think it's possible to have a relationship with someone who sees, say, 3 or 4 other people apart from yourself? The reason I'm asking is that I know this guy who claims to have 5 (!) different boyfriends. When he first told me I thought that he might have had some difficulties expressing what he meant by boyfriends, and he was thinking about shag-buddies, but it turns out that his situation is not exactly as simple as that.

Everytime I meet him while I'm out, one, two or more of his boyfriends can be there with him, generally trying to ignore each other or bickering due to jealousy. The person in question (he's an acquaintance of a friend of mine) isn't particularly attractive looking or wealthy, but he still manages to keep the boat floating, flaws and all.

Do you know anyone who put themselves through super-complicated realtionships similar to this?

fucking hell, 5?

no, i dont.

my good friend who is 26 is seeing 2 men..its pretty interesting

Yeah, having two things going on at the same time is not that much of an uncommon thing. What struck me as totally odd about this guy's love life is that he commands total devotion from the 3 boyfriends of his that I have met. He doesn't come across as being that interesting or strikingly witty either. God knows, perhaps he has something of unspeakable proportions between his legs.

large underwear?

well it may not be weird to see a 3 person relationship to you, but for me its a pretty weird things

the thing that gets me is the reason why she has 2 men, because she cant choose between which one she wants, she is only 26 she still has so much time to meet different men, its not like these 2 men are going to be the last and only men she ever meets.

she also likes to go for older men, her boyfriends are in their mid 40s

nefeli i thought i told u not to tell anyone about my secret life!

I kind of thought that some issues in the self-esteem department may have come into play on the whole thing and perhaps they manifested themselves through serial-dating mayhem.

Slags aren't all that weird, are they? :)

slags? whos a slag? lol

I have also a good friend who is 2 and is seeing 26 men... pretty unsane

26 of me have no friends that are seeing insane men....thats 2 good

I only vaguely ask things like that when he talks about any of them. The thing is that sometimes he'd be talking about one of them and everyone would get confused about which one he is referring to. His English isn't great either (he's Japanese), so sometimes the conversation can turn a little abstract. I'm probably going to see him tonight as he gravitates around the same circle of friends that I do.

I bet that guy power trips of it, sounds too manic of a life style for me and like Nefeli said, it can be expensive enough with just one partner.

It's most definetly not possible, trust me.

correction: not possible for you.






anyway, 5?
some muslims are married to dozens of wives.

dont you feel like just another one of them?

I do not know anyone who is doing this but damn if it would not drive me batshit to have to deal with the egos and personality problems of 2 much less FIVE women. shit.

ego is something I don't have a problem with. keeping up 5 conversations would do me in though. I wouldn't want 5 friends, let alone 5 FRIENDS.


being able to publicly toss rocks at yr wife's head when she misbehaves takes away all the challenge.

No, I don't at all. Why would I?

I've been really close friends with polyamorous people. It's a much more difficult thing to maintain than a monogamous relationship. The people I knew were together as a quint. Their relationship thrived through mutual respect and communication. Any of them was allowed to be intimate with someone outside of their quint with the unanimous approval of the group. They shared all responsibilities including bills, childcare, cooking and other responsibilities.

That's all too much work for a selfish bastard like myself.

That's interesting, just like a hippie commune that practices good hygene. It's not this bloke's case. Two of his boyfriends are university students, but they both seem to be able to provide for themselves. The other one has his own company or something similar, so I doubt that any of their financial situations are some sort of obstacle in this love machine. Don't know about the other two, I haven't met them yet.

Seems like everyone wants to be with the Japanese guy with the freakishly large member because he's such an oddity. Since you're asking for speculation, that's my somewhat cynical guess. It can't be merely because he's exotic; there must be other Asian gay guys around, right?

The "boyfriends" in question are engaged in a temporary semi-truce as they compete to see who will hold the "trophy" for a time. My supposition is that all of this is on a very superficial level and a lasting relationship between any of the fellows and their locus isn't likely.

After all, like you wrote, the guy isn't particularly attractive, he isn't very wealthy, and his personality isn't all that charming.

Yeah, there's thousands of Asian guys all over London, and more attractive than him, so I'm not really sure that the exotic factor is something to do with it.

there's a bit of suspense, they give them 5 seconds of advantage before starting to toss rocks.

besides, sometimes they all live in the same house.
there's always a lot indoor boxing, mudfight, bitch slappin', etc. going on in between the wives.

you know that islamic reality tv has to be THE BOMB.


next on the Imam Network --- My 7 Wives.

i think you should go patent that show and make millions of euros.

massive orgies and bitch slappin' is the definiton of quality entertainment for a lot of people.

i imagine that what you're really talking about when to measure the number of wives you have, the word dozens is used.... is more like some sort of church-sanctioned management position with perks than any sort of emotionally fulfilling personal relationship... not to say that aspect couldn't happen with one or two of the larger group.... all speculation , though. i 've never known anyone who had multiple wives... simultaneously, anyway.

also in the works:

STONED: A Survivor's Story, IED: Baghdad and for the children: Where in the World is Salman Rushdie?

yeah, I'm going to be making BANK soon.

Oh, why would he do that? Maybe he is just interesting in bed? Or the others have low self-esteem to agree with this scenario.

don't forget

ISF Blue: Baghdad - the Iraqi Security Forces

and

COPS: Tikrit Edition

he's a turd-eater or a coke dealer or somethin'?

This is the true story...of seven insanely wealthy strangers...picked to live in a large beachside luxury hotel with a staff of hundreds...play together, and have their lives taped...to find out what happens when people stop being polite...and start getting real...The Real World: Dubai.

because of you there are now sonic youth t-shirts being burned and crazy woman shouting and simulating cunnilingus in the streets of iraq.



p.s.: extremists, kill me after christmas.

or high needs of cock.

*cough*

...because of what i just posted here, or because of things i've posted in other threads?


...either way, tune in at 9 UTC+3/ 8 UTC+2 for The Oil Prince: The Apprentice Riyadh

i dont know. you choose, they dont care. anything is a good excuse to kill you.

i've always tried to make clear the distinction between religious institutions and individuals in general and Muslims (in a broader cultural sense) and Radical Islam specifically. i usually try to refrain from posting things (on this issue) for shock value devoid of social comment and in a few cases i've deleted things that i later decided were inappropriate.

that being said, regardless of your cultural background or personal views, there's probably someone out there looking for an excuse to kill you.

I sincerely hope to offend some motherfuckers.



"there are no homosexuals in Iran"