What are you supposed to do?
 

What are you supposed to do when a stranger comes and sits nexto you on the train or some other public place and asks you your name and starts annoying you in a sleazy way? I mean is there any good way to get rid of a person like this? This has been happening to me since I was about 11 and it still hasn't stopped, it always erks me when I see someone sitting down incase they're gonna decide to try to chat me up. By the way my usual tactic is to ignore them and if that doesn't work then I tell them I'm not interested. This doesn't work too well but it's the most effective method I've tried. People have told me it's not good to ignore people cause it might make them angry but I've tried replying in a polite way and they take that as an opportunity to continue with bothering me. Sometimes I wish I could just vaporize people or something, now that would be effective!

That doesn't happen to me.
Headphones and dark glasses are my advice.

This is an easy one for men, though I am not sure how to advise a woman to make people go away. For me, a firm "No" usually does the trick. That word is magick.

And headphones really do work. When I wear them at the office it is like I am invisible, practically no one bothers you.

You have to look and sound stern. Low voice, hard look in the eyes. Make it clear that you don't want to engage, and say so in no uncertain terms. You just have to be direct about. "Look, I don't want to talk to you. Leave me alone." This is especially effective if there are a lot of other people around, as on a bus, because ideally this should make the person uncomfortable. Increase the volume if the person persists.

two words - fuck off

a very fine choice.....

The last time it happened (this week some time) I had dark glasses on but I didn't have my headphones with my cause I forgot to charge my ipod, but I've had people do that to me even with headphones on, and I point to my headphones as in "I can't hear you, I'm listening to music" but they just kept tapping me and signalling to take my headphones off. Then I tried to tell them I'm not interested in talking and they just sat down and kept trying to talk to me. Having headphones has helped sometimes though.

I thought maybe what I wear might be a factor at one point but this week I was wearing a black suit with dark glasses (work clothes), I just don't get it.


So ChocolateJesus- you just turn around and say "no" and they split?

yeah I've been tempted to say that but I don't really tell anyone to fuck off and I would be scared as to how they would react

.....and die

You could say you feel sick and like you're going to throw up.

Some people really don't get the message until you say something like that, though.

yeah I should be more stern, they catch me off guard cause I'm usually tired or sleepy or something but yeah I should just know that I need to be tough even if I really don't feel like it

So ChocolateJesus- you just turn around and say "no" and they split?[/quote]

Yes - an example of how this method is used is when people walk up to me and they are going to ask for money. I look right at them and say "NO". It is not terribly clever, but leaves absolutely no fucking room for interpretation. It means what it means. Works for me every time.

In Minnesota, people don't talk to other people on the street unless they were raised somewhere else.

I could save myself the trouble of talking and buy a hat that says 'Fuck off and die you sleazy jerk' on it

Then they would just open with "I love your hat!"

Yes - an example of how this method is used is when people walk up to me and they are going to ask for money. I look right at them and say "NO". It is not terribly clever, but leaves absolutely no fucking room for interpretation. It means what it means. Works for me every time.[/quote]

That's a good idea, I usually just say 'no thanks' or shake my head at the multitude of people asking for money in Sydney but for some reason sleazy people are more determined and less easily warded off that money seekers

He is totally right about this....

hehe true! I can't win :(

What's there to talk about in Minnesota, though?

hehe ok I'm moving to Minnesota

I think that it's important to say it like you mean it.
The right tone of voice should set things straight.

Im the same. its a big reason why I dont like traveling on PT alone.

yeah I try to avoid it too, it usually happens at times when there aren't many people around so I try to only travel in peak times or have someone with me, so it doesn't happen to me as much now as when I was at uni cause then I had to constantly be travelling at odd times on my own to go to uni and back

yep. if you want no human contact then dont bathe. also, grow a mustache.

hehe yeah sometimes when I go out in winter I wear an identity hiding outfit complete with hoodie, scarf and beanie while walking around so that I had the effect of a walking ball of cotton which works pretty well, except once when I did that my friends and I stopped at McDonalds to get some snacks (only place open at the wee hours) and when I walked in some bloke said to me "why are you hiding yourself under all those clothes? A pretty girl like you should have feminine clothes on" I told him it's so that I wouldn't get bothered by sleazy strangers and he looked grouchy and walked off

Dark sunglasses and tattoos kinda makes me avoid that. Although sometimes this can have the opposite effect and people wanna talk about their tattoos or potential ink or anything else they want to divulge, when really I don't care. Of course, though, I'm always polite but vague.

I like when old people talk to me, though. Always comforting in a waiting room or whenever, actually.

we are so going to corrupt you here.

this is how you do it:

• look them straight in the eye.
• slowly pronounce yr words so there is no mistake.
• fuck.
• awf.
• look forward again and don't bother looking back.

please feel free to practice on the board.

here's a live demonstration:


fuck. off.



[1000xedits]

fuck off









how did I go?

Needs bigger type.

FUCK OFF! :mad: :fuckyou:




better now?

yay the 1920s ladies and gents approve!

large red text and emoticons have their place, but I prefer the understated normal size.

my only further suggestion would be to use a period (to enforce the finality).

welcome to the dark side, we've had a seat waiting for.

speaking of the dark side, I should just walk around in a darth vader costume, I remember I was in HMV once and there was someone dressed up as him in the store to promote some star wars thing, maybe the computer game or whatever, but people were seriously avoiding him as he walked along the aisles

translation please?

I hate catching the train home from school, I have to catch it into the city and then change lines and catch it back out from the city. Its like 2 hours of potential annoyance. Are you small framed? I am and that bothers me even more.. I feel like they pick me for this reason because I couldnt bash them in the forehead or I look less likely to be angry about it. uhgh.

As long as they dont get off at the same stop as me though, its not too bad. Then I get SUPER scared.. dont follow me home / around while I walk ffs. creepy randoms.

yeah i always have my headphones on when i'm on the subway
usually sunglasses too
no one bothers me
but if someone had the balls to do so i would not hesitate to
a) get up and move
b) complain loudly
c) kick them in the shin

My friend, only 18 years old was at a gas station with another fried of mine. Then the clerk who he said looks to be 50 years old came right out and said if she was his age that she'd fuck him. Pretty fucked.

I once was at a park doing parkour and an old man came along and started talking to me, it was a great day so I didn't mind. We ended up talking for atleast an hour or two. It was really interesting hearing about his life and what he had done. His name began with a K, can't remember.