I have a dilemma and i need some perspective
 

this saturday, a couple friends of mine are having a record release/radio show anniversary party (they have a radio show and they just released their first album, they are combining both things to throw a party); we're not super tight friends but i jammed once with them, made a million promises to start a project together which never happened, they have borrowed cds from me and haven't returned to me and still owe me some they promised to lend me, pretty much never hear of them, etc.

so should i go to their party?

As long as you don't think it would be awkward then you should go. Probably be some cool people there.

yes party, get your cds get drunk have a good time talk about doing projects together never follow through get drunker forget your cds still have a good time wake up hungover

Sure. You might be able to work out a deal, in terms of the stuff.

dude i got like a billion projects i talk about that never materialize.

unless these guys annoy you, id go. esspecially if you have nothing better to do.

Were you invited? If so, go; with an open mind.

don't worry about unreturned shit...its just petty..
go and have fun...projects happen when they happen....if you want it to go down sooner...get it goin yourself!

yes, forgot to say, i was invited alright.

thanks for the advise, but i think it's going to be awkward. (for other reasons other than what i posted, though).

drink a bottle of robotussin...go to the party.....freak....

Yeah :) what they said...

the other option is that you could try and make a decision for yourself because ummm going to a party is not a big deal in any possible way, it is for fun, don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go don't go go hope that helps with your decision

as you might have read on the title of the thread, i asked for perspective, not "tell me what to do".

and the "don't go go don't go" doesn't help, i can do that by myself.

both my posts in this thread have been to give you perspective, my perspective, you either go or you don't it is very very simple

if it's awkward, you could just leave.

There's your reason for going.

you should go to their party and show them up for the cockmunchers they are. or just do something else and forget them.

thanks for answering guys, i appreciate it

I'd go to the party, If that gave me a chance to get free beer and my cd's back. And you'll probably enjoy yourself.

go, but if you feel its gonna be awkward dont, nobody should ever feel "awkward" its a big self-doubt feeling and you should not have to go thru it unless its nessessary, it might look bad if you felt "awkward" at a family wedding or something but if you didnt go it would look worse... so fuck it, if your gonna feel awkward screw em. Although - what really gets my goat is when people "borrow" CD's there is no return spring..i.e you dont get em back, CD's are expensive enough in todays society and if i were you i'd go with the chance of getting these CD's back as my main priority. As for planning a band or what not, dont bother with these people, i dont mean to be rude but i think their main priority was to get CD's or whatever they can off you and thats it.. they would not be very reliable in a "band format" so go Everyneurotic, get your Cd's back for one and keep these people at arms length..

go in and think..."what can i do for this party..."

I lent a cd to friend of mine and after a while I said could I have he back he says "I've lost the cd but I have the case for it, so if I do a copy of it (he'd put it onto his ipod) would that be ok?" NO THAT IS NOT ALRIGHT. BUY ME A NEW ONE OR GET THE FUCK OUTTA HERE. He still hasn't got me the cd back. Bastard.

I now refuse to lend people cds because of that incident.

you're dead fuckin right, i totally mind peoples stuff when they give it to me, its not too much to ask the same in return.
what CD was it h8kurdt?

"would that be ok?!" would it fuck you cheeky bastard.

Mudhoney-self titled. Not happy he also lost me 'no one gets out of here alive' jim morrison biog. Just thinkin about it riles me up.

the bastard, still though - imagine the inner grin on yr face when he's round your house and goes..."hey man, can i borrow this? (<-holding CD/Book/DVD or other possesion aloft)
and you get to say...."No...fuck off."

Well that's thing (this is gonna make him seem like a right bastard...which he his actually) he wanted to borrow annie hall of me. As expected I told to get stuffed.
So anyways a few days later he ask if I wanna come round with a couple of other people and watch a movie. Now, I have a pretty big collection of dvds so he said to bring some round and we could decide on a dvd. Me being the nice guy an all I took annie hall in case we all agreed to watch that along with 5 others. We didn't watch annie hall we watched somethin else (god knows what it was).

So i'm a light weight when it comes to beer and soon i'm out for the count. Wakes up in the morning and all me dvds are there next to me. Ok cool now lets get home. I get home and i pull the dvds out of me bag to find one missing. Which? You guessed it Annie Hall. Grrrr bastard

aww for fucks sake! this good chap is taking the piss. you need to strike man, get something of his..preferably something expensive... i dunno his PSP or Nintendo DS or something and hold it ransom, now not Mel Gibson-Ransom but real ransom, kidnappin of a sort, email him pics of his PSP over a bucket of water or something... teach this goon a lesson.

he's a student so he owns fuck all. Don't worry i'll get my own back one day *rubs hands manically*

seems like you have a plan... good one man.

I don't really I just said that for effect Although I did smash his acoustic guitar over me head (I eas extremly pissed at the time) so maybe that's enough. Nah more damage needs to be done to him.

Did he honestly think you wouldn't know who the culprit was?

You need to choose your acquaintances much more carefully, boy.

Nah he said he was pissed.Other than these traits he's a cool guy. We get on fine and all. I think it's because i'm too nice of a guy thta he does these frankly annoying things. You know "aaahh he'll be ok about it cos he's a nice guy"

What was this thread about? Oh hyeah the party. Go to it man

oh i won't get my cds back at the party thing, nor would they bring their stuff to lend me, i recently went to the guy's house, asked for my cds and he said "i have them stored in a closet and their plastic wrapped because i don't want to get them dusted up since i'm doing remodeling on my house". i kinda trusted this guy because i once lent him a dillinger escape plan and he honestly told me someone stole it from him and was kind enough to re-buy it for me, gave it to me brand new from the relapse online store. i have the policy of not lending cds anymore, even my most trusted people have failed to return my stuff back sound safetly and quick. when someone asks me to let them borrow a cd from me i tell them to bring me a cd-r and i'll burn them a copy.

and it's not really a party party, i have to say; it's an admission-free gig, i would have to buy my own booze and go thru god awful bands playing prog rock or metal badly.

That's happened to me before with a video game, more than once. I also lent a book to someone in brand new condition and it came back like it had been through a washing machine. I refuse to let anyone borrow anything from me under any conditions anymore. People think I'm a jerk for it but I just don't enjoy getting gyped.