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Dr. Eugene Felikson 04.21.2011 06:06 AM

Do you ever pretend to not know things IRL, to avoid coming across as a prick?
 
On the rare occasions that I actually do socialize, I often find myself engaged in conversations about music, movies, or video games. Now, while I'm probably not the most knowledged on any of these subjects on SYG - in real life, people treat me as a walking multimedia encyclopedia (say that 5 times fast).

So, to avoid coming off as a guy who just knows everything (really I don't... just more than the majority of my peers) and can never be shown anything new, every so often I will pretend to be unfamiliar with something I am quite aware of.

People enjoy being the first to expose others to their interests - it's a bonding thing. That's why everyone here gets along so well *cough* *cough* *snicker* *snicker* And if I were to rob my potential IRL pals of these opportunities, I'd be even more of a recluse than I am now.

So yeah... can anyone else relate to what I'm trying to get at here? I know we're all beyond nerdy, so I can't be the only person who has been put in this situation before.

Inhuman 04.21.2011 06:44 AM

I totally relate man. It's a little bit different for me though. I find when talking to my peers about music, the music they listen to is the music I was into when I was 16. So I often can't help but tell them "oh, yeah I used to listen to them as a teenager" or "yeah, I liked them when I was 16". They're immediately offended by this and see me as a pretentious douchebag. I'm sure you also feel alienated with your music taste 'growing up' faster than others your age.

I just wish it wasn't something that had to be seen as narcissistic. I usually just say "I used to like them" now, but it's quick for the other to realize that I don't like anything they listen to, and their entire iPod "I used to like".

Maybe try talking to them about something outside of music, movies, or video games that they can share. I know they're such good subjects to talk about, but test your limits with the others!

Theres subjects I know a lot about and reallllyyy want to have in-depth conversations about them to others. Like coding, web design, or online marketing...I could fucking talk for hours about that nerdy shit, but whenever there's someone I can talk to about those, anybody else with us is immediately alienated and gets bored to tears.

Glice 04.21.2011 06:45 AM

I can't think of a situation where this has ever happened. I tend to think that 'knowledge' never implies mastery though. People are always surprising.

floatingslowly 04.21.2011 07:29 AM

no, but I do it online in order to look like a cunt and I have a natural-born ability of annoyance that's been honed by years of practice.

you see, the mega-pricks of SYG thrive on the game of harder-core-than-thou and the surest and easiest way to break their balls is to not play along.

the only exception is glice, who I find to be an exceptionally congenial well-font of taste and style.
















I lie. he's a prick too.

noisereductions 04.21.2011 07:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dr. Eugene Felikson
On the rare occasions that I actually do socialize, I often find myself engaged in conversations about music, movies, or video games. Now, while I'm probably not the most knowledged on any of these subjects on SYG - in real life, people treat me as a walking multimedia encyclopedia (say that 5 times fast).

So, to avoid coming off as a guy who just knows everything (really I don't... just more than the majority of my peers) and can never be shown anything new, every so often I will pretend to be unfamiliar with something I am quite aware of.

People enjoy being the first to expose others to their interests - it's a bonding thing. That's why everyone here gets along so well *cough* *cough* *snicker* *snicker* And if I were to rob my potential IRL pals of these opportunities, I'd be even more of a recluse than I am now.

So yeah... can anyone else relate to what I'm trying to get at here? I know we're all beyond nerdy, so I can't be the only person who has been put in this situation before.


prick.

pokkeherrie 04.21.2011 07:40 AM

I kind of do that sometimes.

Not in the sense that I want to avoid coming off as a know-it-all prick, but more because answering "I never really watched that/listened to them" once in a while to some people comes across less offensive than having to say "yeah I do, and they're shit!" all the time.

SONIC GAIL 04.21.2011 09:30 AM

I am very aloof IRL. I am very choosy with my friends and whom i hang out with. PPl seem to aproach me everywhere I go I suppose it is because I don't really care about what others think of me. If I am asked I will share what I know. Down here no one even cares or knows about half the shit I am interested in thus I love you SYG pricks:)

Glice 04.21.2011 10:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by floatingslowly
no, but I do it online in order to look like a cunt and I have a natural-born ability of annoyance that's been honed by years of practice.


You realise that being ignored and generally quite boring is not quite the same as annoying people, don't you? Only the above is a bit like the kid no-one wanted to play with pretending he didn't want to play with them anyway.

Genteel Death 04.21.2011 10:18 AM

I'm more intelligent and fearless than most people. Google or not.

floatingslowly 04.21.2011 10:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Glice
You realise that being ignored and generally quite boring is not quite the same as annoying people, don't you? Only the above is a bit like the kid no-one wanted to play with pretending he didn't want to play with them anyway.

come closer to my web, little fly.

I mean, lol u mad

floatingslowly 04.21.2011 10:41 AM

I trace the decline of this board back to the day that TPS showed you all to be nothing more than stuffed shirt twats locked in a text-based MUD with a singular goal of one uppance.

with minimal Judo-like effort, you were brought to your knees as your tears rusted mySQL.

godspeed, good doctor and good luck. you will never get these cunts to admit a pause in their pedantic pursuits.

translation: they're all twats in real life too.

....except for Savage Clone. no lie. he deserves your worship.

atsonicpark 04.21.2011 10:45 AM

I try to hang out with somewhat knowledgable people. My favorite thing is when someone shows me something I've never heard of. Constant learning and discovery is what really makes life worth living imo.

But to answer your question, no I haven't really dumbed myself down or anything, I don't see the point.

SONIC GAIL 04.21.2011 11:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by atsonicpark
I try to hang out with somewhat knowledgable people. My favorite thing is when someone shows me something I've never heard of. Constant learning and discovery is what really makes life worth living imo.

But to answer your question, no I haven't really dumbed myself down or anything, I don't see the point.


Yes I LOVE it when ppl introduce me to new shit. I get so excited.

Dr. Eugene Felikson 04.21.2011 11:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Inhuman
I totally relate man. It's a little bit different for me though. I find when talking to my peers about music, the music they listen to is the music I was into when I was 16. So I often can't help but tell them "oh, yeah I used to listen to them as a teenager" or "yeah, I liked them when I was 16". They're immediately offended by this and see me as a pretentious douchebag. I'm sure you also feel alienated with your music taste 'growing up' faster than others your age.

I just wish it wasn't something that had to be seen as narcissistic. I usually just say "I used to like them" now, but it's quick for the other to realize that I don't like anything they listen to, and their entire iPod "I used to like".



Yeah, that's pretty much the exact scenario that I'm talking about. It sounds even worse coming from me though, seeing as 2 of my all-time favorites are ICP and Avril Lavigne - the poster-children for a 16 yr old's taste in music.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Inhuman
Maybe try talking to them about something outside of music, movies, or video games that they can share. I know they're such good subjects to talk about, but test your limits with the others!

Theres subjects I know a lot about and reallllyyy want to have in-depth conversations about them to others. Like coding, web design, or online marketing...I could fucking talk for hours about that nerdy shit, but whenever there's someone I can talk to about those, anybody else with us is immediately alienated and gets bored to tears.



Ha, I don't think I have any interests aside from media. Unless you count kinky sex, Satan, or weed, I guess.

Quote:

Originally Posted by pokkeherrie
I kind of do that sometimes.

Not in the sense that I want to avoid coming off as a know-it-all prick, but more because answering "I never really watched that/listened to them" once in a while to some people comes across less offensive than having to say "yeah I do, and they're shit!" all the time.



That's pretty much exactly what i was referring to. :)

Pookie 04.21.2011 11:43 AM

What does IRL mean?

atsonicpark 04.21.2011 11:44 AM

in rectal lingus

EVOLghost 04.21.2011 02:32 PM

Sometimes. I think most of the time no. Like if they're from my close circle of friends...then most likely no. We're kind of pricks to one another so....it doesn't feel bad all the time.

SpaceCadetHayden 04.21.2011 04:10 PM

I try to come off as a prick at all times so no one ever wants to hang out with me every again. Keeps me out of social situations quite nicely.

alteredcourse 04.21.2011 07:58 PM

If it's about a band I used to like but dont anymore, I'll flat out say "No.", wait for them to laugh at the abruptness and then I ask them what they like about them in a genuinely curious (for the sake of hangin around talking shit) fashion, and everybody moves on. I loathe when people dislike what I like and bumble something to the sound of "but uh, its cool that YOU like them...uh," awkward. It's fine to simply disagree.

GeneticKiss 04.21.2011 08:52 PM

From about 18 to 24, I was a total music snob, hating pretty much everything popular, getting indignant if someone hadn't heard of someone I really like but felt were popular enough at one time that they should be common knowledge, and judging people by their music tastes. Nowdays, I respect that other people's tastes may not mesh with mine, and it's better to find something we do agree on. Just the other day, I was talking about Pandora with someone and telling them I have stations for a wide variety of genres, from classical to metal to ambient, and they remarked that I listen to a wide variety of music. I said I like pretty much all music with the possible exception of country, and they were taken aback that I didn't like country. They asked a someone else if she like liked country and she said yes, and so they tried the "see, she likes it, why don't you" approach, saying they like country and rap. I said I like rap too, so we found some common ground. It's nice to stand on common ground; it makes me feel included and less of an outcast.

So in answer to the question in the thread title, I guess no, but often times people will be talking about some pop culture trend and I'll say I'm not familiar with it and they'll say I'm out of touch. Go figure.

SuperCreep 04.22.2011 02:29 AM

i don't really "play dumb" in front of people about these sort of things, but i sometimes suppress my opinions on shit like music just to get along with people and not seem like an outright cunt. it just isn't important that people irl know what i really think of dream theater.

Glice 04.22.2011 04:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by GeneticKiss
I said I like pretty much all music with the possible exception of country, and they were taken aback that I didn't like country.


You don't like country? What on earth is wrong with you?

Derek 04.22.2011 06:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SuperCreep
i don't really "play dumb" in front of people about these sort of things, but i sometimes suppress my opinions on shit like music just to get along with people and not seem like an outright cunt. it just isn't important that people irl know what i really think of dream theater.

Good thing most of my friends make fun of Dream Theater with me.

floatingslowly 04.22.2011 07:10 AM

I understand that most of you are homosexual, and thereby likely don't care, but this is the REAL reason why this board is 95.998% bro-land.

you should praise the females with the fortitude to deal with your neckbeardian games.

country really is shit though. ghastly shit. like what the fuck kind of people (trash) can relate kind of shit. terrible, shameful, white power boogaloo.

atsonicpark 04.22.2011 09:03 AM

You know, I try to find the good in anything.. even if it's some ultra shitty pop garbage, I can usually walk away from it and go, "Oh, well there's a cool bassline" or some shit... makes life a lot more tolerable...

Of course, there are a few bands where I can't hear ANYTHING to like, like most of the Mars Volta's output. It just seems like an almost violent attempt to pile on as many sounds that don't sound good as possible.

The Watcher 04.24.2011 09:09 AM

If I think something is terrible/is shite/atrocious I won't say as such un;ess I'm close friends with the person because who knows, their feelings might get hurt and there's no reason to do that in a friendly conversation..... although my wife thinks 90% of what I listen to is garbage and it doesn't bother me......

But I wouldn't pretend I hadn't heard of something to avoid being thought of as "too smart"....... I work with mostly 60 year olds and a bunch of doctors and if music ever comes up I just say I like Deep Purple (which I really fucking do they are the best band next to Black Sabbath if you want my opinion on such things)........

SONIC GAIL 04.25.2011 07:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by floatingslowly
I understand that most of you are homosexual, and thereby likely don't care, but this is the REAL reason why this board is 95.998% bro-land.

you should praise the females with the fortitude to deal with your neckbeardian games. Praise Us!!!

country really is shit though. ghastly shit. like what the fuck kind of people (trash) can relate kind of shit. terrible, shameful, white power boogaloo.Pop country sucks assfuck though I do like some of the real country I am very picky about it though

.......

The Watcher 04.25.2011 08:54 AM

What is a neckbeardian game.......

SONIC GAIL 04.25.2011 08:59 AM

men being men

The Watcher 04.25.2011 09:05 AM

My wife does have to listen to a lot of inane bullshit about records, but I accompany her shopping for clothes so I think they cancel each other out...... ho ho ho........

floatingslowly 04.25.2011 09:18 AM

it's only a matter of time before glice finds something redeeming about Christian rock.

SONIC GAIL 04.25.2011 09:18 AM

inane bullshit about records sounds interesting

Clothes shopping does too I prefer to go alone because I am slow and do not like to be rushed

Glice 04.25.2011 09:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by floatingslowly
it's only a matter of time before glice finds something redeeming about Christian rock.


Remind me to send you my mix of chastity rock when/ if it ever gets finished.

floatingslowly 04.25.2011 09:30 AM

will I bleed stigmatically?

SONIC GAIL 04.25.2011 09:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by floatingslowly
it's only a matter of time before glice finds something redeeming about Christian rock.


Christian Rock is shit

Built in fan base

MAKES ME WANT TO PUKE

http://www.southparkstudios.com/clips/154133/replace-darling-baby-with-jesus

floatingslowly 04.25.2011 09:36 AM

sadly that link states that I "could not load movie". I reckon that's something like walking into church.

SONIC GAIL 04.25.2011 09:38 AM

damn it was the episode when cartman does the christian rock band

fucking funny


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