Dear god help me, I'm seeking advice on syg
 

Ok.. so I've had sex with this one girl (an ex no less) a few times..
no big deal (although I've felt horrible on the inside about it)

Here's the catch though, I found out that she has recently gotten an abortion (not from her, from her friend), but couldnt' get much more than that.

I dont't know when she got it, I don't know who she thinks it was from, I know nothing other than that it happened.

Should I ask her about it and try to find out if it might have been mine?

Or should I just nto bring it up since its been, well, taken care of and avoid this girl as I've been doing lately.

I can't believe she wouldn't consult a potential father before killing his potential child... I don't know what I would have said, but I just feel so strange and awful right now.

don't bring it up.
even if you were the potential father, it is 100% HER decision, not yours.

judge judy

Psh... if we go anywhere its gonna be maury.

And I guess so, its just so weird. I know I used protection but you can never be sure.
I just wish she'd AT LEAST told me, I wouldn't even expect her to ask permission, I'd have just wanted to be told.

God: "Don't bring it up, at this point it would be inappropriate..."

God:
"ps.."

Haha I love you suchfriends.

Eh.. not gonna happen.

This girl is trouble though, she had a boyfriend the whole time we were fucking and found it unnecessary to let me now, on top of that she told me she loved me mid sex.

Plus: She made a sex mix cd with bring da ruckus on it.

I would keep inquiring from the "friend". Sooner or later you might get a bigger picture. Even if you have to threaten the friend with oh, say, cherry bombs and masking tape.... Confess how much it means to you to know to the friend. I would be leery that even if confronted, you might not be getting a straight answer from the "ex". You can bet her agenda is to not confront of let the potential father know.... hence, the act behind their back.

Also, if you really used a condom every time, there's a 98% chance she didn't get pregnant from you: DISCLAIMER: if used properly ;)

How do you know that the likely father doesn't already know?

I asked the friend and she said she did it without telling anybody.

sue her

how did you rate the sex?

I wouldn't bring up the abortion.. it's her body, her business.. and it doesn't sound like you had much of a serious relationship anyway. She sounds kinda like a twit too, no offense. I'd just erase it from my brain, man. Nothing you could do now could change anything that happened anyway.

Cut off all contact and never look back.

she probably didn't know who the daddy was if she was unfing more than one guy at once. I dont know if that's why she didn't tell you, but maybe. She sounds a bit silly but that's only from what you've said. I'd just let it go if you can.

Choices as I see it:

Drop it. Let it go. DO NOT do anything about it at all for at least a month till you think it through. If it continues to bother you, talk it out with friends. Really.
Consider: if it WAS yours, what can you possibly do about it now? What would you have been willing to do about it then?
Most importantly...stay far, far away from this ho. Point yr dick in the opposite direction.

Thanks gu ys, yeah I think I'm just gonna drop it.

And yeah, I'd been avoiding her for a few weeks now and have every intent to continue.

Good choice. She spells trouble.

GREAT choice. You're young. Have fun with the normal girls ... or at least the ones who only act like they're nuts. You'll get enough of the truly damaged batshit crazy ones when you get older, believe me.