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Dr. Eugene Felikson 02.18.2010 04:49 AM

Have you ever cheated on a significant other?
 
If so, why, and what happened after?

I personally have not, so there isn't much I can add to this thread. But I've been recently tempted by an old female best friend that I used to have a major crush on (until we fell our separate ways) and is now definitely down to fuck. I can have my cake, and eat it too in this case. But if I cheat on my girlfriend, what's the point of even dating her if there's no exclusivity?

Perhaps she's cheated on me already. There have been some pretty fishy moments over the years, and it's entirely possible. I guess then I would feel more justified. I mean, what's the point of even trying to have a serious relationship at this age? The odds are completely against us, and I'm missing out on some prime fucking time. Soon enough I'll be a fat, old, fart only dreaming of opportunities with girls like this. Especially if I turn out to look anything like my father.

ploesj 02.18.2010 05:27 AM

i haven't, bu on the other hand, if i am with someone it's because i really want to and i won't easily be tempted by someone else. when i am, it's usually a sign of something going wrong.

i once made a promise to myself never to be the reason why a relationship breaks up like that (so i'd never cheat on someone or be someone's mistress). my parents' marriage broke up because of this and i'm tired of hearing "you're just like your dad!"

Dr. Eugene Felikson 02.18.2010 05:51 AM

Things have been going great between us actually. It's just that after 2 years, I can't help but wonder what the fruit tastes like on another tree. Especially when said fruit is soooooo ripe, and anxious to be picked.

Hell, I hardly expected any other tree would want me eating their fruit.

atsonicpark 02.18.2010 06:55 AM

Nope! There have been some temptations, and I once got a blowjob from a girl in an "interim" period (me and the girl had broken up for a few weeks but then we got back together, but in those few weeks I messed around with another chick once). I am pretty honest and open, I admit I watch porn and have had phone sex and stuff while with girls, and none of them seemed to have had a problem with it. Also, I tend to get with girls who know how to fulfill my needs in bed, so eh... I would just completely break up with a girl if I ever had the urge to mess around with someone else, but I don't really want to "mess around" anyway.

On the other hand, every significant other I've ever been with has cheated on me except the one I'm with now. So, I must be doing something wrong.

akprodr 02.18.2010 08:02 AM

I tried really hard but never got there.

I was extremely unhappy in marriage but too chicken shit to do anything about it. I dunno if I thought I could have a relationship with the woman or just a diversion. She was a lot of things my wife wasn't. Turned out she had just had an affair and her husband was watching over her closely. Pretty much a disaster.

It took another year but I got divorced.

floatingslowly 02.18.2010 09:05 AM

no. not even when cheated upon. not ever.

that said, there's no accounting for the Thought-Police.

A Thousand Threads 02.18.2010 09:33 AM

Yes I have and it was a very dumb thing to do.

SONIC GAIL 02.18.2010 09:51 AM

No, I would never be that girl. Honesty is something I hold very dearly and take very seriously.

phoenix 02.18.2010 09:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dr. Eugene Felikson
Hell, I hardly expected any other tree would want me eating their fruit.

Is that why it is even more appealing?

Would you break up with your girlfriend if that was the only way you could get to have sex with this girl?
If yes, then break up with her and frolic naked with said new girl.
If no, then keep it in yr pants.

Or discuss it with yr girlfriend? Perhaps she might want to see(fuck) other people also. Honesty.

dale_gribble 02.18.2010 10:44 AM

just cut yr dick off, problem solved.

chicka 02.18.2010 12:56 PM

how's that saying go, oh yeah Men are pigs and proud of it. Yes I cheated on a couple of gf. I cheated twice on my ex-wife one of them being a roughly three month affair. Did I feel guilty? Absolutely. Did I get over it? Absolutely. Did it hurt my marriage nope. She divorced me 10 years after the fact over drugs not a cheatin' heart. Did she cheat on me? I don't think so but hey you never know what goes on in a woman's heart or mind.
Other than if something better comes along they won't hesitate to go for it.

pbradley 02.18.2010 01:00 PM

My others have, so far, all been insignificant.

floatingslowly 02.18.2010 01:02 PM

^^^ my sister needs a boyfriend. are you into holding knives to women's throats? if not, I'll put in a good word.

pbradley 02.18.2010 01:07 PM

I'd rather go skinny dipping in a less feculent gene pool.

floatingslowly 02.18.2010 01:11 PM

that's right. I forgot you were a racist.

alteredcourse 02.18.2010 01:19 PM

I'm still with the guy I cheated on my ex with, 9 years later. We're doing well. Why did I? Because I was 17, nervous about growing up. Even though he was my first love and we had an intense relationship, it came to a point where I didnt really know if we could go on even if we changed apart. Somehow, this friend of ours and I started hanging out and....here we are.

Even though things worked out for me and my guy, it didnt work out for the ex, at the time. Of course he and we have all long since moved on, I sincerely regret having gone about cheating to break up. So I didnt know what I wanted at the time, I still put myself though this denial that what I was doing to this person was no big deal, for my own selfish gain. Ultimately, I was so unsure about what I wanted and whether we could or SHOULD get through together, being so young to be so committed, I opted to destroy it. If anything, I should have just broken up with him, but I just couldnt do it, until I was already with the new guy. I think thats shit, but I cant change it.

notyourfiend 02.18.2010 01:22 PM

no.

pbradley 02.18.2010 01:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by floatingslowly
that's right. I forgot you were a racist.


Nah, that would suggest that my genetic discretion falls between racial lines. Not so, there, Beast Master. I bet your sister is a lovely woman, yet she still remains biologically related to you.

floatingslowly 02.18.2010 01:36 PM

that's ok. I'm sure she's used to a large penis size anyways.

akprodr 02.18.2010 04:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by alteredcourse
Why did I? Because I was 17, nervous about growing up.


Pfft! At 17, isn't that pretty much normal behavior? I mean, sure, coulda, woulda, shoulda, but hey, you were 17!


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