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Originally Posted by the girl you know can't look you in the eye, so sick she cannot try, she lies and lies and lies

about relationships.

1) Sometimes vibes can be wrong. Just because your girl/boy shows up a few hours later than usual, doesn't mean that something shady is going on. If such problems persist, and you always get half-assed responses as to why he/she is running later than usual (this is usually accompanied by other "questionable" factors"), give him/her the benefit of the doubt. They could be telling the truth. Sometimes personal circumstance can be a bit out of the ordinary, and putting pressure on one for solid explanations that may not exist can, do doubt, cause undue problems. Allow your partner their space. Who cares if they are smoking out more than usual or are possibly caught up in some new-found video game that it taking up a bit of the attention you are used to them giving you. SOMETIMES these things do pass.

wow, you know how to get the ladies wet.

Originally Posted by swa-anne (miss world)

2) Unless you KNOW something shady is in the works, again, don't pressure your partner. Again, vibes can be wrong. All things come out in the end (and while, yes, you may worry that you could be wasting yr time on a girl/boy fucking someone else in a back alley on their lunch break)...allow it to pan out, especially if you love the individual (please, don't ask me to define love as that is a whole 'nutha topic). You may find out you've been suffering much undue stress in the end....and reality is, even if ya find out whatever vibes were accurate...at least you know you were not at fault. Let nature run it's course.

so you've worked out she's cheating on you, or if she isn't she deserves to be.

Originally Posted by swaggot, oh baby drive away, to malibu

3) FACT! People, even those in relationships, fantasize about others. We are sexual creatures, and this alone doesn't boil down to one being unfaithful to their partner. This doesn't mean you should tell your partner that you want to fuck the babysitter, KEEP these thoughts to yourself (especially specific fantasies regarding specific people)...pornography can be a healthy way to deal with this. If both in a relationship can watch it without the other caring...fantastic...if not, keep that shit secret.

if this isn't the kind of pep talk a closet homo gives himself after he can't manage one wank over the mental image of his gf's tits and has to instead fantasise about dick in order to finish then genteel can slap my ass and call me nikita

Originally Posted by swas body, the hand grenade

4) And this one indirectly goes back to 1...we ALL need our space. YOU well NEVER be EVERYTHING your lover wants. Of course, they might make such claims toward the beginning, and likewise, at the time they may feel as such. But anyone that has dealt with such feelings as "being in love" more than once knows all too well that relationships often begin red hot w/ the most amazing of emotions running amuck...two weeks to a few months later, this will not be the case. It doesn't mean something is wrong, it sometimes just means that you've grown comfortable. If yr boy sometimes prefers playing guitar over going to see a movie, or your girl is all of a sudden wanting to spend a bit more time with her female friends...this DOESN'T mean things are going downhill. Allow them to be themselves and don't take shit too personal.

no swa, you will never be anything a lover wants, at least not one that isn't going to leave you alone forever in the bushes behind a truckstop restroom.

Originally Posted by slut kiss swa won't you promise her smack is she pretty on the inside is she ugly from the back?

5) If it's been well established that one of two parties has been unfaithful...move forward. Nine times out of ten, there is no "fixing things", even if the guilty feels utmost regret and you know he/she is being sincere. In most cases, you yourself will always acknowledge the possibility of a third equation working it's way into the picture, and likewise, you will never be comfortable with when they want to go out without you being there or if they happen to get home later than usual. Sometimes, it's OK to trust yr instincts, and ALL the time, it's more important to look out for your own well being than someone that has made such mistakes. If YOU aren't comfortable, chances are they will not be either. If you can deal with the problem without w/ full trust + not too much discomfort...go for it.

swa, her cheating on you isn't a mistake, it's fucking progress

Originally Posted by swannifer's body

Relationships are quite possibly, as far as I can tell, the most amazing, as well as most difficult things any of us will ever deal with.

i think the hardest thing you have to deal with right now is convincing yourself you wouldn't rather be getting rammed by a fat 54 year old bear called daddy bubba. my suggestion is to give the whiskey a rest and deal with your own repressed pyschosexual hellscape before inflicting any more of this fagtrocity on some undeserving lady. either that or get ready for a dumping in the next couple of months.

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