you can even have great ambitions and not necessarily hate yourself if you're unable to meet them.
the reward/punishment for good/bad performance can be internalized so that people carry it inside themselves without the need of a master.
i find it ridiculous. but most people are programmed that way.
i once knew a girl who was not very good looking. let's say she was downright homely. the curious thing is that she HATED HERSELF for it. (as if it was her own fault, or if she needed more problems already).
no need to become your own enemy when you don't "perform". really.
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