Quote:
|
Originally Posted by cryptowonderdruginvogue
i mean, i felt like shit when i heard about it
we all did
we were just so surprised, we never thought he'd do such thing
he seemed like such a happy guy, but i guess he had some issues
after it was all said and done, when i think about it now
it kind of angers me
his family (and those that were very close to him) will have to think about his suicide on christmas day
am i horrible person for being angry at him?
|
quite the same happened here: my uncle was manic-depressive, had been treated for years and had already tried to commit suicide, but then everything seemed quite fine. there had been some problems with his girlfriend, but at the christmas dinner last year they seemed ok and had big plans for the future, and everything was fine, he looked happy. but the fifth of january he shot himself.
most suicides come unexpected, when someone's saying he or she's going to commit suicide, it's mostly more a cry for attention (there are of course always exceptions). feelings of anger or guilt are very normal, but you have to know that someone who decides to commit suicide won't do this for just one reason. it isn't easy as that. usually, there are many different reason and one thing will be the last drop. you also have to know that a suicidal person doesn't think like you or me: they don't see solutions (so-called tunnelvision), and all you can do is try to get him or her out of this tunnel. if someone says he's going to end his life on a particular day, try to make an appointment with him or tell him to call you on a particular moment. he'll have something to look forward to and that may help. (these are things i learned after my uncle ended his life)
you're not a bad person for feeling angry, just try to avoid blaming people: it almost never happens that one person is the reason why someone commits suicide.