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Originally Posted by Jt
Yeah, althought it's usually the case you at least have some common ground with your friends or else conversations tend to lull.
Interestingly though... I think I'd probably hate to go out with a female version of myself, or even a girl that was massively into music on my kind of level... it sounds chauvanist I guess but it's more my preference; I quite like girlfriends who aren't half as pretentious or arty as I am. Personality is key when it comes to lay-deez for relationships, and looks play their part too. But just because some girl I know has a penchant for krautrock and mid-eighties art rock I'm not going to want to get with them. I prefer more straightforward girls I suppose.
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I think the people who I've met who share my tastes in this sort of stuff have turned out to be complete morons who just end up being a burden to me. And unfortunately they're always very clingy, as if we have to be joined at the hip because we listen to some of the same music. Really, so what? It's just not important enough to me. I don't want to spend all of my time talking to people about music. That's why I do it here sometimes, so I don't have to do it with people I've actually met. It's just aggravating. I like it when I have friends who can actually surprise me with their conversation. You know, the ones who make me think, "Oh really? I never would have guessed," instead of "I pretty much figured that out already." I think too much common ground is dull.
As for the difference between friendships with girls and guys, I can't really give the best opinion on it. I've had what I guess would be three close friends throughout my life. Two were girls, one was a guy. At this point I'm not really close to any of them, though we do keep in touch and hang out occasionally. But I definitely don't open up to any of them like I did in the past. I tried to think of the girl/guy differences, and what I came up with wasn't very helpful, since my best ever girl friend was gay and had a crush on me in the beginning (at that point, she hadn't even told me she was gay yet), and the guy I was close to also had feelings for me. And the other girl (the straight one) and I had what you could call a love/hate relationship. Really though, when we were together we were like a happily married couple, and whenever we fought it was like a little divorce every time. People still take the time to remind me how horrible we were to each other. I regret being that ruthless, but now without those extreme feelings, there's hardly anything left to speak of.