[Norma J]

I think alot of people on here need to re-evaluate their current friendships... obviously. In highschool I, like everyone, hung around people I didn't necessarly care for, or looking back now realise I didn't care for. But I also liked my own time and generally preferred to be alone as I'm someone who rejoices in their own company. After school, I drifted apart from them so called friends. I mean, they're alright guys I guess, but we have and did have nothing in common. I still get the occasional text msg from an old schoolfriend and when I find out who it actually is, I generally stop replying as I have no need to reform them friendships. Basicallywhat I'm saying is that it's my belief that the ones you hang around in highschool are merely people to waste time with and get through the school day - not really friends. Also, everyone should seperate from their highschool "friends" once school departs so that you can grow on your own and meet new people who are more at one with you - more choose the people you spend your time with. Because I hear stories about some of these people, what they've been up to and are doing in life now, and they're doing nothing creative or anything different than when they were in school - all living in the same area they grew up in - which makes me quite sad if I dwell on it.

As for the relationship thing, it can be hard for the friend who feels like they're being 'dissed' for the new boyfriend or girlfriend, but it's alot worse for the friend in the relationship when their friend(s) can't accept that their friend is in love and has found someone.
My girlfriend and I have been together for a couple of years now and her friends all did that to her when we started going out. They felt she spent too much time with me and they all carried on and really upset my girlfriend to the point where she basically just let them go (fucked them off). This lasted for months. NOW, they all want to be friends with my girlfriend again because they realise she has it good because she got out of their bullshit circle and they want out to. Plus some of them have found partners themselves and now completely understand what happens when you love someone.