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Originally Posted by luxinterior
This is a very common response, but I still am unable to make sense of it. First, there is the assumption that once you're out of high school you'll have more of a chance of meeting people who are similar to you. It's not necessarily true, because it's all based on luck. I mean, the same people who are going to these colleges are the ones who attended the high schools in the surrounding area, usually. College doesn't automatically change people for the better. Also, I can't just expect to soon meet people who are more like me. In college, I can tell that a lot of my interests still put people off in the same way they did in high school. And I don't even make a big deal out of it all--it's something that people just find out eventually, by asking questions and such.
And then you talk about the people who choose to keep living in the same area they grew up in--what of it? It's not hurting you, and it's their own personal choice anyway. Once I moved back to my hometown, after a completely disastrous semester in Chicago, a lot of people I know--including certain friends and family members--began to look down on me for something that I felt wasn't so much of a choice as a necessity. I still have to take crap about it from people who don't even understand the whole ordeal, simply because they want to believe I chickened out in some way. Who would want to live in a place where they don't feel welcome?
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I don't mean that I've moved continents. I moved to the city, more a coastal town about a 25 minute drive from where I grew up and went to school. Leaving school doesn't mean you meet new people, but it means you can drop the ones who you don't truely care for as you're not around them everyday in a classroom. I never attempted to meet knew friends, I just did what I wanted to, I went to shows, galleries, etc etc, by myself if need be. I met people who were also into the same thing. I didn't hang around school friends until I met knew friends.
Living in the same town you grew up in depends on the town to me. Where I grew up was very football orientated and alot of people were destined to repeat the past. They now work at shitty jobs and date people from school who they never really even spoke to. Why? I don't know. Probably because they run in the same circle as eachother now. I can't think of anything worse.