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Originally Posted by screamingskull
how is your socal life?, how often do you go out and see your friends?, if you see them everyday at school, college, or work do you see them at weekends too?
i think im quite antisocial, i see my college friends everyday so i dont ever see them on weekends, my other friends from back in school go out quite alot, to clubs and hang out at each others houses. My best friends completely ditched me when she met her current boyfriend, so now we never really see each other or spend any time together.
i'm always being invited to parties or to hang out on the weekends but i very rarely go. if i go to a party i usually end up just standing alone, being incredibly borred and wanting to go home. it hasent always been like this i used to go out every friday and saturday and get drunk and have fun with friends, but since leaving school i hardly ever go out with friends.
is this normal?
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depends on what you mean by "normal." no, it's not what most people do, but that's a good thing. ultimately you have to be who you are rather than who virtually everyone else on the planet expects you to be.
i went through a crisis similar to that when i was in high school, and i suppose it's ongoing to a degree. i've almost never been to a party of any kind, as i find them destructive and puerile, and i have only a handful of friends -- years ago that bothered me a great deal. i've since learned to come to terms with the fact that i'm just an introvert (and, to add insult to injury, a bizarre introvert), and that i probably never will have an adolescence/young adulthood like most people have. again, THAT'S OK. you only have to associate with friends to the extent to which you're comfortable. they're there for exactly that purpose -- because they're friends; they should be able to understand when you'd rather be alone.
plus a lot of people grow out of the "incessant partying" phase -- i just happened to never have one. maybe that's just happening to you, which is a sign you're growing up.