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Originally Posted by Savage Clone

Understood, but not everybody runs with a crowd that is inclined to go the Family Way (which obviously can disrupt social life, but there are numerous examples to the contrary in my own social circles), and there are any number of ways "life goes."

yeah exactly. you've had a pretty stable life as far as location & relationships (youve been married since you were 19 or so, & living in the same place) so its easier to maintain long friendships.

its easier to keep your best friend from high school than it is to meet your best friend when you're 30-- can happen but it's unusual. not saying impossible or can't happen, just that it's rarer.

and then i am so radically a different person than i was in highschool that i cant be best friend with those who were my best friends. if i had stayed similar, yes.

of my 4 best highschool friends i only have things in common with one now, he's a human rights activist-- the other 2 went for a bougie life and we have little in common. another we stopped getting along after he had kids, not sure exaclty how. but the distance of 5000 miles makes it difficult to keep in touch with the last one left.

friendships i've made after that are good, but haven't been as strong, and it's eaier to drift away. there seems to be some kind of an age window for that type of bond, not sure if it's hardwired.