[gmku]

From the Buddhist perspective, there is no self to change. A Zen Buddhist would tell you your first mistake is thinking there is a solid self to change when in fact your self is in itself change--that is, if the Buddhist were an asshole.

For better advice, you should read Pema Chodron's The Wisdom of No Escape. She's an ordained Tibetan Buddhist and gives some heartfelt advice, to quote from the cover blurb, about "about making friends with ourselves and our world, about accepting the delightful and painful situation of no-exit. It exhorts us to wake up wholeheartedly and to use the abundant richly textured fabric of everyday life as our primary spiritual teacher and guide."

It's actually much better than it sounds. I read it a few years back when I was feeling down and it really helped. I still go back to it now and then when I'm feeling weird about things.

It's an easy read, too.