[phoenix]

I know this guy, who is really pretty awesome. If I had to fill out a form with check boxes about someone I might potentially date or be friends with, a lot of the things about him are ticked...

He speaks a few languages. He's a geek.. wonderfully so.. He has lots of old consoles and that was one of the first things we bonded over.. He's excited about mortal kombat 4 or some shit coming out in feb (Im sorry if I got that wrong, I dont play fight games anymore) He plays guitar wonderfully and has a band and what not. Listens to so much wondeful music.. and is open minded always about new toons. Is pretty laid back and spiritually aligned.. He wears.. attractive outfits. You know.. relaxed and comfortable in ones skin yet makes the effort? He's spontaneous, ridiculously so. He has hippie ear length hair.. and he's just kind of cute..

So you'd think it'd cause a bit of a mad crush for me. But it doesnt. Well, maybe for a few seconds, and then I remember

he is a playa.


or, he appears to be one.. And it just turns it all off in a second because I never really fight for anything I want, I just give in and try and move on. (having said that the relationship I'm in at the moment was kind of a result of my fighting over it.. and tbh I dont know where its going and sometimes still wonder whether it was worthwhile.)

Truthfully I've never been close enough in his friendship circle to really find this out, but I've known him for a while and spoken to him online in all of my 'profile' sites over the years and what not.
Every one of those there are so many pics with so many women. So many random online friends mostly female.

In every semi D+M conversation we've had there is always discussion of broken heartedness.. depression.. things.. Which originally seemed.. attractive in the way a woman wants to fix things that are broken, by instinct.. Then after a while.. it seems like .. player talk.

you know.


Are they always players just becasue they talk that way and have legions of female friends who seem to be all over them?

or could it just really be a case of bad luck in relationships and over compensating by befriending as many girls as possible?


I dont know if it makes him more interesting.. or if he is really awesome underneat it all.. or if he's just the kind of headache I've learned through trial and error to now naturally avoid.