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Originally Posted by afterthefact
Not trying to call you out, but I'm just curious if you have lived your life that way, how many times you have moved, how many times you have broken up with someone you love simply because you want to find someone else to love, etc...
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No problem, I didn't take it in a negative way.
I've never lived outside of New York because everything I want is here presently, but I've moved within New York a good number of times. I'm actually presently in the process of moving to another part of Brooklyn. I'll be paying more and I'll have less space, but I'll also be living with one person that's cool versus two people that motivate me to do little but want to smack them in their heads. I've moved four times in the last four and a half years. Once into a place with some friends, then into an apartment with a girlfriend, then into this place when we broke up, and now to the new place. I'd like to actually stay put in this new place for a while, if possible.
I was with someone I loved very much until the end of this past September. Our relationship was going very well, but we came to a point where we knew we weren't going to get married and we wanted slightly different things for the relationship. We had been friends for years prior to dating, so we decided to break up while we were on a high note, that way things wouldn't degrade over time and potentially hurt our friendship. As heartbreaking as it was to do, we both knew it was right. We felt way mature about it. And we're still good friends now and everything is very cool. But yeah, I broke up with someone that I loved being with while things were still good and moved out of a home that I loved as well (kind of the only place that ever felt like a home to me aside from my grandmother's home.)
I haven't always taken this approach, I've definitely let myself flounder in situations before, and as I get older (I'm 26) I'm trying to get even better at it and enact it more quickly. I also just quit a job that paid me $20 an hour and that let me work part-time and from home part of that time (and live off of it), where my boss loved me and would let me get away with almost anything, for one that only pays me $12 an hour and that requires I work over-time. I wasn't sure if I'd have enough experience for the new job when I first started and there was a fear that I'd get let go somewhat quickly as a result, but this hasn't been the case and now things are working out quite well, even if I'm damn tired and sore. I made the switch because the new job is much more in tune with what I'd like to be doing with my time, and I hated knowing I was wasting days of my life doing something pointless.