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Originally Posted by Dead-Air
Told my wife's parents at lunch that we're separating in a few months. Kind of a relief to have it be real instead of a looming threat. Now I just feel weird acting as a family unit through the holidays when she's seeing someone else and I've started actively looking. In the past 24 hours I've found I am no longer as into the cuddling and kissing as it all goes down the drain that I've been an enabler via the last few months. I don't want to drive her out sooner, especially since we can't afford that, but I'm tired of getting her to change her mind for a day or three. I'm totally ready to focus on my shit rather than hers for a change.
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^^ The same as greedrex I didn't really see this coming but not everyone posts their daily ins and outs on here. Fucking unpleasant situation to be stuck in at least at the moment, and you have my sincere sympathy. At least perhaps as you mentioned a little relief? (I'm hoping that in my own situation when I feel comfortable enough to move on the relief at least helps)
Hopefully things will move into a situation that is a little more comfortable for you ASAP. Often I am gloomy about these kind of things but life is what you make it and if you want there to be something wonderful out there for you after this, there really will be.
I do also hope that as hard as it might be, you can keep a good relationship with yr wife for yr kids sake. Even if you rarely see each other, at least keeping on honest and sympathetic terms I think is the most important thing. My mother's first husband pretty mcuh did a complete GTFO, it really hurt my sisters a lot, the younger one a lot more though. One of my sisters's is married to a guy now who has two kids from a previous marriage. His relationship with his ex is fairly horrid but to be really honest ( and it may sound one sided but I'd give details as to why if it weren't so rude to do so) it is
entirely her fault. Again, the older kid has dealt with it a lot better. The younger girl is pretty much off the rails at the moment but everyone is hoping she comes back to earth soon. It has been really hard on her though, they split when she was about 18 months old so she's been fed BS and back and forth her whole life.