My life just destroyed itself [rant]

Dead-Air · 11.16.2008, 02:39 AM

Who hasn't had something similar to that?

You really aren't necessarily being paranoid if your girlfriend seems excessively close to another guy. I've never had to put up with that in the age of text messaging, it must really suck with that thrown in.

If you are seeing a therapist, that's likely a very good thing. You are probably in for some rougher emotional times before it gets better, and it may well get better in ways you wouldn't pick right now if you could (and you really never can).

Try to remember that your life has much more to it and much more of worth than a single relationship. I know I've lost sight of that in a big way in the past (and ended up needing professional help as well), but it is something that can be overcome.

ZEROpumpkins · 11.16.2008, 02:45 AM

Do a barrel roll

terriblecanyons · 11.16.2008, 03:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Inhuman

My girlfriend and I are very close, but she recently got a new guy friend that she's constantly talking to. Every time I'm gone away (montreal, work, etc) she's with him and is in a never ending text message battle with him.

It's normal for this to be kind of bothersome, but things are really fucking up. I think I have paranoia. I start uncontrollably shaking, get cottonmouth, can't focus on what anybody is even saying to me sometimes. I know this is my mind creating delusions, but it takes a huge toll and people are thinking I'm really fucking odd because of it, especially her.

Now I'm seeing a psychiatrist starting next week. I've been feeling depressed excessively. Has anyone else had anything similar?

Uhh... I'd be worried about the dude.

Sonic Youth 37 · 11.16.2008, 03:07 AM

That's a sticky situation. I'll just say I've had the twitching/shaking thing over a very similar situation. And I made the WRONG move, which was getting pissed off, breaking up, making her jealous, lying about it and then pretending that I didn't give a fuck. My arm still twitches when I think about it some times.

I don't have any advice for you except don't do what I did.

pbradley · 11.16.2008, 03:37 AM

Would you say that your life has been flipped, turned upside down?

Should I take a minute and sit right here?

Lamont Cranston · 11.16.2008, 03:40 AM

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Originally Posted by ZEROpumpkins

Do a barrel roll

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Originally Posted by pbradley

Would you say that your life has been flipped, turned upside down?

Should I take a minute and sit right here?

would either of you gentlemen happen to have batte toads?

pbradley · 11.16.2008, 03:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Inhuman

Please, take a seat. And just shaken about a little, hard times.

Unfortunately I am currently happy with my bachelor status so I feel like Jay-Z about all this.

Inhuman · 11.16.2008, 03:52 AM

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Originally Posted by pbradley

Unfortunately I am currently happy with my bachelor status so I feel like Jay-Z about all this.

Shit, just listening to one of the new Jay-Z tracks as I read this. Solitude is often beauty. Much more freedom

Alex's Trip · 11.16.2008, 03:55 AM

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Originally Posted by pbradley

Unfortunately I am currently happy.

wut?

davenotdead · 11.16.2008, 03:56 AM

i'm not sure on the shipping from the uk, but seems like a good deal

pbradley · 11.16.2008, 03:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Alex's Trip

wut?

You don't value solidarity? I do. My personal happiness is not the end all be all.

Which is to say that I can be happy with my bachelor status but still be unhappy in a lot of other ways (i.e. showing solidarity with a comrade in hard times).

Alex's Trip · 11.16.2008, 04:16 AM

I understood what you meant. But I was pointing out that it is contradictory to say "Unfortunately I am happy" I thought it was funny.........................

..............but I have no sense of humor.

cryptowonderdruginvogue · 11.16.2008, 04:20 AM

this thread is not baller

davenotdead · 11.16.2008, 04:24 AM

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Originally Posted by cryptowonderdruginvogue

this thread is not baller

yeah dude, life is too short to let a woman get you down.

besides, schizo and tc have professed love for you, just take a trip down to sunny florida, videotape it, and send/text that to yr chick and see if she stops texting her brofriend

terriblecanyons · 11.16.2008, 04:45 AM

Yeah, Gosh, What About Me!?!?

PAULYBEE2656 · 11.16.2008, 07:34 AM

if its meant to be its meant to be and things will work out.. it is possible for 2 peole of different sexes to be very close in a friendship way, not everyone jumps on everyone after a conversation yknow......

seriously, i hope it works out. i had the same problem a while back, about 15 years ago with my girlfriend...she is now my wife of almiost 9 years so things will work out fine...

flophousefloozie · 11.16.2008, 10:31 AM

I usually seem to find more in common with males than females, so I always made friends with guys, and I never thought much of it back then. I honestly did not see the difference between girls and boys, as far as friendship went. Lots of girls are the same way.

Being cautious is certainly a good thing, though.

How close are you with her? Does she have lots of other friends, or is it normally just the two of you?

11.16.2008, 10:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Inhuman

My girlfriend and I are very close, but she recently got a new guy friend that she's constantly talking to. Every time I'm gone away (montreal, work, etc) she's with him and is in a never ending text message battle with him.

It's normal for this to be kind of bothersome, but things are really fucking up. I think I have paranoia. I start uncontrollably shaking, get cottonmouth, can't focus on what anybody is even saying to me sometimes. I know this is my mind creating delusions, but it takes a huge toll and people are thinking I'm really fucking odd because of it, especially her.

Now I'm seeing a psychiatrist starting next week. I've been feeling depressed excessively. Has anyone else had anything similar?

I think you're mixing two specific things there. The depression comes across like it isn't caused by your girlfirend getting close to something else, therefore the anxiety that this causes is having more serious repercussions on other aspects of your own life, hence the amplified downer. Perhaps it's a warning sign that you need to deal with your whole view of what relationships are made of when they are going to work out for the best, one aspects of which is being prepared to cope with things that you had imagined could not be possible when you're in one.

Trasher02 · 11.16.2008, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Inhuman

My girlfriend and I are very close, but she recently got a new guy friend that she's constantly talking to. Every time I'm gone away (montreal, work, etc) she's with him and is in a never ending text message battle with him.

It's normal for this to be kind of bothersome, but things are really fucking up. I think I have paranoia. I start uncontrollably shaking, get cottonmouth, can't focus on what anybody is even saying to me sometimes. I know this is my mind creating delusions, but it takes a huge toll and people are thinking I'm really fucking odd because of it, especially her.

Now I'm seeing a psychiatrist starting next week. I've been feeling depressed excessively. Has anyone else had anything similar?

I have the exact situation going on right now. I know it's probably nothing but still I get suspicious over it constantly and it's really driving me cray.

I don't know if I'm overreacting or not but still I can't help it feeling this way.

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Dead-Air invito al cielo Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Portland OR Posts: 4,300	Who hasn't had something similar to that? You really aren't necessarily being paranoid if your girlfriend seems excessively close to another guy. I've never had to put up with that in the age of text messaging, it must really suck with that thrown in. If you are seeing a therapist, that's likely a very good thing. You are probably in for some rougher emotional times before it gets better, and it may well get better in ways you wouldn't pick right now if you could (and you really never can). Try to remember that your life has much more to it and much more of worth than a single relationship. I know I've lost sight of that in a big way in the past (and ended up needing professional help as well), but it is something that can be overcome. __________________ FuckBook; My Band; My Radio Show; My Flickr Page; Science Fiction Message Board
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Sonic Youth 37 invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: if there is a bright spot in the universe, the farthest point from it Posts: 9,443	That's a sticky situation. I'll just say I've had the twitching/shaking thing over a very similar situation. And I made the WRONG move, which was getting pissed off, breaking up, making her jealous, lying about it and then pretending that I didn't give a fuck. My arm still twitches when I think about it some times. I don't have any advice for you except don't do what I did. __________________ "One: Where's the fife? and Two: Gimme the fife."
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Alex's Trip invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Southern California Posts: 5,608	I understood what you meant. But I was pointing out that it is contradictory to say "Unfortunately I am happy" I thought it was funny......................... ..............but I have no sense of humor. __________________ KALOPSIA
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PAULYBEE2656 invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: wexford, rep of ireland Posts: 6,930	if its meant to be its meant to be and things will work out.. it is possible for 2 peole of different sexes to be very close in a friendship way, not everyone jumps on everyone after a conversation yknow...... seriously, i hope it works out. i had the same problem a while back, about 15 years ago with my girlfriend...she is now my wife of almiost 9 years so things will work out fine... __________________ myspace facebook *twitter*
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flophousefloozie expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Cowtown, Canada Posts: 1,694	I usually seem to find more in common with males than females, so I always made friends with guys, and I never thought much of it back then. I honestly did not see the difference between girls and boys, as far as friendship went. Lots of girls are the same way. Being cautious is certainly a good thing, though. How close are you with her? Does she have lots of other friends, or is it normally just the two of you?
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