Why do girls...

evollove · 11.12.2007, 09:24 AM

Meet you, seem cool, give you their number, yet have a steady boyfriend? I don't get it. Further, they never tell you this. You have to figure it out. Your planet's rules don't make sense.

val-holla-ing · 11.12.2007, 09:34 AM

maybe they actually just want a friend?

what do i know, though, i've gone through more potential-baby-mama drama in the past week than i can really handle.

mangajunky · 11.12.2007, 09:37 AM

they're keeping their options open.
Like guys don't do the same thing...

floatingslowly · 11.12.2007, 09:38 AM

(666) 232-8230

gualbert · 11.12.2007, 10:08 AM

It happened to me a few times to spot a young and pretty girl in a bar , looking sooo lonely , fragile , lost in a tough world , in desperate need of affection and protection...
And then , one hour later , the boyfriend arrives .

So if some guy has the idea to engage the conversation , I guess it would end like this:

... oh ! it's my boyfriend .
Well , it was a pleasure to chat with you , so long , see you . ( fuck off ! )

Once I saw a girl who was probably really lonely , fragile etc , but maybe I didn't stay long enough.

Everyneurotic · 11.12.2007, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by evollove

Meet you, seem cool, give you their number, yet have a steady boyfriend? I don't get it. Further, they never tell you this. You have to figure it out. Your planet's rules don't make sense.

you and me both brother.

i have a rule now, as soon as "my boyfriend" pops into the conversation, i walk away.

atsonicpark · 11.12.2007, 10:43 AM

Girls are very rarely ever seriously "taken".

evollove · 11.12.2007, 10:51 AM

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Originally Posted by atsonicpark

Girls are very rarely ever seriously "taken".

Really? This is a disturbing concept, if I were ever to land a female. Is trust impossible or foolish?

I would be fine if, after a good conversation, she were to say that she has a boyfreind, but is mature enough and her partner is secure enough that she is free to develop plutonic relationships. In fact, because she and I get along, it's possible that me and the boyfreind could get along too. Great! Honesty! I love it. It's the duplicitous game playing that I hate (I hate both the player and the game equally, which is my right).

mangajunky · 11.12.2007, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by evollove

-snip - she is free to develop plutonic relationships. -snip -

http://www.m-w.com/dictionary/plutonic

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1: formed by solidification of magma deep within the earth and crystalline throughout

That's hot.

Rob Instigator · 11.12.2007, 11:12 AM

there are different camps to this

girls with boyfriends they love/really like are not going to give you their number

girls with boyfriends they have just because they have not found one they like better will give you their number. (many girls feel they cannot be single even if the guy they're seeing sucks)

Girls who have boyfriends/husbands but look for action on the side for whatever reason will give you their number.

none of these means they actually LIKE YOU

nicfit · 11.12.2007, 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Everyneurotic

you and me both brother.

i have a rule now, as soon as "my boyfriend" pops into the conversation, i walk away.

"Do you want to be my boyfriend?"
she said.
he walked away.
she cried.
cut!

Silent Dan Speaks · 11.12.2007, 12:50 PM

Women thrive on our unhappiness. That is why.

!@#$%! · 11.12.2007, 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by evollove

Meet you, seem cool, give you their number, yet have a steady boyfriend? I don't get it. Further, they never tell you this. You have to figure it out. Your planet's rules don't make sense.

ha ha ha that is funny

you could ask them if they have a boyfriend though

cryptowonderdruginvogue · 11.12.2007, 02:00 PM

thems the rules

Glice · 11.12.2007, 02:06 PM

At the risk of sounding like a cunt... let's just stop a moment there to soak up the irony... at the risk of sounding like a cunt. Great isn't it?

Anyway.

At the risk of sounding like a cunt you can either deal with it or fail to chat to girls again. It's hard, you're a chap, all chaps are horny, all 'lady-killers' are actually pricks, very rarely will a girl come and chat to the shy-looking chap. However, the important thing to remember - if they are giving you their number they may want a friend. As such, they will doubtless have non-attached female friends, who may be hotter. Having women/ girls who are 'friends' is a good thing - you have minge-in-potentialus and you're not hanging round with guys (shittest way to get laid ever).

They may also want to jump ship with boyfriend. Get in there etc.

They may be a psychopath. Sleep with them. Psychos are the best in bed.

It's all about looking at potential gain, not immediate gain.

EDIT: Ladies, you know I'm only joking right? You still love me baby, yeah? You know I ain't like those other guys. Etc.

!@#$%! · 11.12.2007, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Glice

As such, they will doubtless have non-attached female friends, who may be hotter. Having women/ girls who are 'friends' is a good thing - you have minge-in-potentialus and you're not hanging round with guys (shittest way to get laid ever).

They may also want to jump ship with boyfriend. Get in there etc.

They may be a psycopath. Sleep with them. Psychos are the best in bed.

It's all about looking at potential gain, not immediate gain.

ha ha ha ha. applause, sir. great advice there. excellent grasp of strategy. i hope you one day get to run your own country.

Glice · 11.12.2007, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by !@#$%!

ha ha ha ha. applause, sir. great advice there. excellent grasp of strategy. i hope you one day get to run your own country.

I wouldn't put ideas in my head if I were you.

the ikara cult · 11.12.2007, 02:25 PM

Women *tuts*

alteredcourse · 11.12.2007, 02:58 PM

what glice said is all true .

i dont find it so much disturbing that girls would give their phone number to a guy if she has a boyfriend, but more disturbed at the concept that if anyone is in a relationship , its NOT ok to interact with or develop relationships with anyone of a sex of their preferred interest .
in a relationship ? no friends for you ! you're done ! that would be horrible . THAT would make a girl feel like she has to be sneaky just to fulfill the natural desire to hang with another person . why is there guilt in the first place ? its not necessarily becuase she intends on fuckign the guy . its because people are so uptight about relationships .

its lame whoever said that they just walk away if a girl says they have a boyfriend . you cant appreciate a girl as just a friend ? you only hang out with guys ? what is it ? i guess perhaps you've been there before and got mixed up in a stupid web of lies .

but still .
i can accept that most people only ever interact because they find the other person somewhat attractive sexually but we still do have the ability to choose what kind of relationships we have . we dont have to all just be about pressing our genitals against eachother and rubbing hard .

Rob Instigator · 11.12.2007, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by alteredcourse

what glice said is all true .

i dont find it so much disturbing that girls would give their phone number to a guy if she has a boyfriend, but more disturbed at the concept that if anyone is in a relationship , its NOT ok to interact with or develop relationships with anyone of a sex of their preferred interest .
in a relationship ? no friends for you ! you're done ! that would be horrible . THAT would make a girl feel like she has to be sneaky just to fulfill the natural desire to hang with another person . why is there guilt in the first place ? its not necessarily becuase she intends on fuckign the guy . its because people are so uptight about relationships .

its lame whoever said that they just walk away if a girl says they have a boyfriend . you cant appreciate a girl as just a friend ? you only hang out with guys ? what is it ? i guess perhaps you've been there before and got mixed up in a stupid web of lies .

but still .
i can accept that most people only ever interact because they find the other person somewhat attractive sexually but we still do have the ability to choose what kind of relationships we have . we dont have to all just be about pressing our genitals against eachother and rubbing hard .

if a guy is asking a girl for their number it is almost NEVER about being pals, man.

11.12.2007, 09:24 AM	#1
evollove invito al cielo Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 2,879	Meet you, seem cool, give you their number, yet have a steady boyfriend? I don't get it. Further, they never tell you this. You have to figure it out. Your planet's rules don't make sense.
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11.12.2007, 09:34 AM	#2
val-holla-ing invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: baton rouge. the 225, big raggedy. Posts: 2,731	maybe they actually just want a friend? what do i know, though, i've gone through more potential-baby-mama drama in the past week than i can really handle. __________________ please do not misconstrue the previous statement as an invitation for same sex relations or as negative towards anyone of another sexuality. -cam'ron (formerly "no homo")
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mangajunky expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Englewood, NJ Posts: 1,247	they're keeping their options open. Like guys don't do the same thing... __________________ -Franky Don't let yer meat loaf.
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floatingslowly invito al cielo Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 21,165	(666) 232-8230
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11.12.2007, 10:08 AM	#5
gualbert the end of the ugly Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 1,088	It happened to me a few times to spot a young and pretty girl in a bar , looking sooo lonely , fragile , lost in a tough world , in desperate need of affection and protection... And then , one hour later , the boyfriend arrives . So if some guy has the idea to engage the conversation , I guess it would end like this: ... oh ! it's my boyfriend . Well , it was a pleasure to chat with you , so long , see you . ( fuck off ! ) Once I saw a girl who was probably really lonely , fragile etc , but maybe I didn't stay long enough.
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atsonicpark invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 28,843	Girls are very rarely ever seriously "taken". __________________
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Rob Instigator invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: In the land of the Instigator Posts: 27,991	there are different camps to this girls with boyfriends they love/really like are not going to give you their number girls with boyfriends they have just because they have not found one they like better will give you their number. (many girls feel they cannot be single even if the guy they're seeing sucks) Girls who have boyfriends/husbands but look for action on the side for whatever reason will give you their number. none of these means they actually LIKE YOU __________________ RXTT's Intellectual Journey - my new blog where I talk about all the books I read.
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Silent Dan Speaks the destroyed room Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 603	Women thrive on our unhappiness. That is why.
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cryptowonderdruginvogue invito al cielo Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: the party Posts: 10,281	thems the rules
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the ikara cult invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: London sink Posts: 4,576	Women tuts __________________ "It is absolutely ridiculous, they are behaving like a cult" - The Vatican
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11.12.2007, 02:58 PM	#19
alteredcourse expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,503	what glice said is all true . i dont find it so much disturbing that girls would give their phone number to a guy if she has a boyfriend, but more disturbed at the concept that if anyone is in a relationship , its NOT ok to interact with or develop relationships with anyone of a sex of their preferred interest . in a relationship ? no friends for you ! you're done ! that would be horrible . THAT would make a girl feel like she has to be sneaky just to fulfill the natural desire to hang with another person . why is there guilt in the first place ? its not necessarily becuase she intends on fuckign the guy . its because people are so uptight about relationships . its lame whoever said that they just walk away if a girl says they have a boyfriend . you cant appreciate a girl as just a friend ? you only hang out with guys ? what is it ? i guess perhaps you've been there before and got mixed up in a stupid web of lies . but still . i can accept that most people only ever interact because they find the other person somewhat attractive sexually but we still do have the ability to choose what kind of relationships we have . we dont have to all just be about pressing our genitals against eachother and rubbing hard .
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