[phoenix]

when yr partner is continually jacking off before you come to bed.

and you haven't had real sex more than once in the past few weeks.

It's starting to get annoying.


whut do I do apart from start going to therapy.

[Better_Than_Deux]

explain you want some dick.

or dump the guy and find someone willing to give you your daily dose of dick.

i think communication would be the simplest way to fix things

[Zombie Robot]

communication- good.
rape- better.
talk sexy, jack him into ur mouth while givn oral, then rape him- best.

im sorry phoenix! hope u can get laid again soon, i'd do u.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by Better_Than_Deux

explain you want some dick.

I do this often.

I agree communication is fabulous, but I'm running out of things to say.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by swa(y)

just attack/fuck the shit out of him.

like literally...rape him.

im saying this because ive been in HIS situation before.

I do this sometimes.

But, it wears pretty thin being the only one who is instigating sex 95% of the time. So then as much as I enjoy the sex that DOES happen, I'm also thinking about 'ffs I've had to start it again'

if that makes sense.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by Zombie Robot

communication- good.
rape- better.
talk sexy, jack him into ur mouth while givn oral, then rape him- best.

im sorry phoenix! hope u can get laid again soon, i'd do u.

There is only so many times you can pin down yr man and unf him before even that gets monotonous.

I'm a girl... I need.. you know, to be ravaged.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by swa(y)

if he has the tendancy to want to be "mothered" you might be facing some very complicated issues....

like, mother him only if ya see that hes NEEDING it...

if yr wanting sex, be BITCHY (in a sexual way). dont let him have thoughts of "this is someone that mothers me", basically.

whenever yall do have sex, does it seems as if he takes a bit to long getting it up?

ermm he has mommy issues, but it has never really affected our sexy time ( until now? if that what it is, I dunno. )

It's never been an issue because I like being a bitch/tying him up for a play sometimes as much as he enjoys that kind of thing.


ermmmm when we do have sex no, there is no problems with any of that. THAT is what is annoying I guess. To me there is no reason for this BS behaviour. haha. Half the time I'm not allowed to 'go there' even when the rest of his body clearly wants it.

[Lamont Cranston]

"why are you jacking off before coming to bed?" would be a good question to start with.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by Zombie Robot

i'd do u.

I want a new girlfriend.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by Lamont Cranston

"why are you jacking off before coming to bed?" would be a good question to start with.

it isn't before he goes to bed, he generally goes to bed first. it's while Im in the shower before I get into bed, usually.


"I dont know, because Im tired and I dont feel like sex"


phoenix: "..."

"fine, we can still have sex, come on"

phoenix: "no, that's stupid! there is no point now. "


In any case.. the 'we can still have sex now' is never real sex, it's phoenix doing all the work and not much fun.

[Lamont Cranston]

I dunno how to describe that behaviour. Lazy? Conceited?

[Better_Than_Deux]

pheonix, how is the non-sex life with your man??

[Toilet & Bowels]

sounds like he doesn't want sex if he's jerking off before getting into bed.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by swa(y)

then again though...sometimes boys do just go through phases to where they want to jerk off a lot. maybe hes got some things on his mind that he needs to get out in the privacy of yr bathroom.

i dont know.

its strange, but it does happen.

does he watch a lot of porn? it can (sometimes) cause problems w/ some boys as far as wanting to be intimate with their girrrrly is concerned.

not an obsessive amount, or even that much really. I probably watch just as much as he does.

I guess, maybe it is a phase. I maintain that my vag/accessories are far more interesting that his dick.

Originally Posted by swa(y)

and sex...can sometimes...be a LOT of effort. esp if one works a lot, sleeps very little, and smokes a lot of ciggies.

It IS worse when he is working, but he's not working right now.. So.. tired is really something that shouldn't come into it. He doesn't smoke. He should probably get out and exercise more, but he isn't THAT freaking unfit.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by Better_Than_Deux

pheonix, how is the non-sex life with your man??

becoming frustrating!

[Better_Than_Deux]

Originally Posted by phoenix

becoming frustrating!

maybbe it would be wise to work on that?

maybe the sex problem would just dissolve.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by Toilet & Bowels

sounds like he doesn't want sex if he's jerking off before getting into bed.

This is a/the problem.

[pbradley]

I'm sure he would love to know that you are talking about his masturbation to complete strangers on the internet.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by Better_Than_Deux

maybbe it would be wise to work on that?

maybe the sex problem would just dissolve.

no I mean, frustrating because of the sex part.

our non sex relationship is the same as ever. at the moment probably a little better.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by pbradley

I'm sure he would love to know that you are talking about his masturbation to complete strangers on the internet.

I'm sure someone else out there on the internet would love your less than helpful typing.

It isn't as if I'm posting photos.