[phoenix]

Originally Posted by swa(y)

well...being really lazy and not doing shit can cause someone to be tired. it weird.

I guess. yr right.

[verme (prevaricator)]

he is gay.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by swa(y)

sex is art. masterbation is art (atleast for me...i get really creative w/ my thoughts...sometimes going as far as to imagining myself being someone else fucking me, to me being me fucking someone else, to me being someone else fucking someone else...in all sorts of weird surroundings)....

sex with someone else is collaboraitve art (least, it should be). people dont always feel like collaborating.

it really would not bother me at all if it were just not as one sided as it is at the moment. There is not a lot of sex, he will jerk off before I get to bed, and then I am not allowed to do the same once I get to bed because he wants to sleep.

i havent had sex in a week in a half. but then again, me and krissy broke up about a week ago. things are really weird. very/very/very complicated.

that sucks. Sorry to hear it Hope you either can sort it out soon and get back together, or that things work out okay moving on.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by verme (prevaricator)

he is gay.

we're both bi. It isn't an issue.

[phoenix]

My biggest stress is that he is cheating again : /

IDK.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by swa(y)

fuck that...do it anyways. hes not giving you what you want (no matter how valid the excuse may/may not be)...so if yr wanting something, DO IT>...he can sleep when yr done. it doesnt take hours.

I've tried, but I can't get into it because he keeps telling me off and gets angry.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by swa(y)

uh oh....that is a possiblity.

hopefully you havent already forgiven him for cheating more than once. if so, be careful and consider moving on to better things. yr a pretty/smart girl. there IS better out there.

cheating is about one of the worst things anyone can do to someone else. being cheated on is quite possibly one of the worst feelings ive ever personally experienced...just, KNOWING "something" is going on, then not being able to prove it...then finding out for sure, and considering the fact that yr other half has been sharing his/herself w/ someone else. it hurts. then theres that weird level of competition/comparision to the person he/she cheated on you with...its bad. no fun.

ask him and see how he responds. you have the right to.

I've asked, but he says no.

He never said yes last time until I found out though.

A massive part of it is probably *my* problem for sticking around in the first place. But now I am where I am, and it is comfortable. The relationship is comfortable. I've asked, he says no. There is no point going off like a mental case crazy lady trying to prove otherwise. I'd feel like a complete bitch for leaving the relationship on the assumption only that he is doing something wrong.

[pbradley]

Originally Posted by phoenix

I'm sure someone else out there on the internet would love your less than helpful typing.

It isn't as if I'm posting photos.

Your consideration for internet opinions over your boyfriend's sounds deeply entrenched.

[phoenix]

hey now, don't waste all yr angst in this thread. Save some for the others.

[pbradley]

It's sad that you have to assume my defense of your boyfriend's privacy is driven by angst. Is that how you deal with information you don't want to hear? Conjured psychology?

If anything, I'm only speaking from what I would be thinking in his shoes. I identify with his sexual apathy, not much angst there.

[terriblecanyons]

inb4 every dude on the board going into details about how often they choke the bishop

[pbradley]

Fine, anything else I would say would only involve myself more.

Carry on.

[verme (prevaricator)]

Originally Posted by swa(y)

thats ignorent.

i was joking.
is the misspell ironic or ignorant? i've noticed you use it often.

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by pbradley

It's sad that you have to assume my defense of your boyfriend's privacy is driven by angst. Is that how you deal with information you don't want to hear? Conjured psychology?

If anything, I'm only speaking from what I would be thinking in his shoes. I identify with his sexual apathy, not much angst there.

oh?

well, if anything, him reading me writing about this would probably turn him the fuck on.

So yr tying on the wrong shoes if you think yr judging from his perspective.

Is that how you deal with information you don't want to hear? Conjured psychology?

I'm just used to you fairly often assraping my thread/post content. In fact, I knew you would reply with something along the lines of what you wrote. I really don't mind, I'm just giving you what you want, a reaction, right?

[phoenix]

Originally Posted by terriblecanyons

inb4 every dude on the board going into details about how often they choke the bishop

haha. I really don't want to know that, I was more interested in situation experience or whatever.

I'd +rep sway for his help but I've done it too recently.

[Satan]

looks like it's time to trade in for a new model

[phoenix]

he's already six months younger than I am

[Satan]

i mean get a new man
if you're not getting what you want from someone get it from somewhere else.

[terriblecanyons]

Satan speaks the truth. If I were you I would've said "look, give me what I want or this relationship is in the trash".

[phoenix]

I don't cheat and I am patient enough to not say that ^

I just want to find a solution, not to break up with the guy.