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knox · 10.25.2009, 12:50 PM

I know this man who got married to an american but apparently same sex marriage might be accepted but doesn't give him the right to get a greencard? they had to get a lawyer to sort it out and spend loads of money.

as for what i am doing.

what do you do when you feel so shit about yourself, you have a massive horrid hangover (and didn't even have fun), even moving hurts and its almost like uve had a lobotomy?

Dead-Air · 10.25.2009, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Genteel Death

Thanks. I was going to come to the states this year for different reasons, I was to get married to a guy from Minneapolis I met here in London. I've had second thoughts about it and called the wedding off early because I didnt think it would work. The plan is still on as far as visiting is concerned. The only thing is that we are just friends and keep in touch almost every day. He is visiting next year in May or June.

Wow. So you totally get my crazy international crush/friendship then. I just talked to her on the phone for the first time ever. I think I'm headed for exactly the kind of turmoil you mention above too. I have no idea if we are the ideal lovers or ideal friends. Of course the romantic in me hopes for both, but there's this little realist on the other shoulder, and I don't know which one has the horns and which one has the halo.

Dead-Air · 10.25.2009, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by knox

as for what i am doing.

what do you do when you feel so shit about yourself, you have a massive horrid hangover (and didn't even have fun), even moving hurts and its almost like uve had a lobotomy?

two things have ever helped me through that situation: cats and pot.

Genteel Death · 10.25.2009, 12:58 PM

The plan was for him to move to the UK. I know this American dude who went through hell in order to marry his partner in Liverpool, move there, and live happily forever after. They had to shell out a big amount of money (for them).

Dead-Air · 10.25.2009, 01:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Genteel Death

The plan was for him to move to the UK. I know this American dude who went through hell in order to marry his partner in Liverpool, move there, and live happily forever after. They had to shell out a big amount of money (for them).

And did they find a justifiable amount of happiness?

I'm convinced that if I never kiss this girl it would still be worth everything to meet her and go places with her. I'm so ridiculously infatuated, it makes no sense at all.

nicfit · 10.25.2009, 01:16 PM

Am tryin' to make room for stuff to put stuff into in a room with no room for other stuff.

deflinus · 10.25.2009, 02:03 PM

being a lazy piece of shit for once

!@#$%! · 10.25.2009, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Satan

you guys didn't have separate bank accounts?

rule number one.

never, ever, ever entangle yourself financially with another person.

ha ha, good advice for judge judy customers in general ("i signed my name for her cellphone!"), but being married is a different story-- it is in fact an economic contract, when you clear away all the bullshit ritual.

dead-air pointed at some of that but there's much more to it-- e.g., we're not cooking little individual meals for each person, or keeping 2 fridges, or keeping 2 rooms at separate temperatures, or measuring how much hot water each consumes, etc.

living alone is of course the best way to avoid these entanglements, but once you're a family you're all in the same boat--- that's why you should watch carefully who you marry and why-- "love" (read: hard dick) is not cause enough for this-- you can get that without the contract. "being in love" is a temporary illness, and it's no base for any kind of long-term contract.

the problem with many marriages is that they are based on deluded "romantic" ideologies rather than reality. "but i love him!"-- no, that's no reason to marry-- that's reason to fuck their brains out-- you marry someone cuz you wanna start a fucking tribe with them and you're ready to pay the price and stake your future on the enterprise.

Genteel Death · 10.25.2009, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Dead-Air

And did they find a justifiable amount of happiness?

I'm convinced that if I never kiss this girl it would still be worth everything to meet her and go places with her. I'm so ridiculously infatuated, it makes no sense at all.

God yes! They had been apart for a long time, in the end the wedding itself only meant they could be together. Keef is also an awesome musician who played, amongst others, with Faust. They really are a great couple. Oh, and they met on the internet.

knox · 10.25.2009, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Dead-Air

two things have ever helped me through that situation: cats and pot.

my mind is absolutely allergic to pot. it is ridiculous. one would think that im a real schitzo, but id be just stoned.

as for the infatuation, GO FOR IT.

mil_pl · 10.25.2009, 05:54 PM

goin' to bed, take care

Sonic Youth 37 · 10.25.2009, 05:56 PM

Reliving the album of my 11 year old self, Americana by The Offspring. This is due wholly to having a kick ass night last night that included the Time Warp and late night food runs. I still know every word to this album

nicfit · 10.25.2009, 05:56 PM

tryin' to destroy a supervirus from a friend's pc.
fuck.

Dead-Air · 10.25.2009, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by knox

my mind is absolutely allergic to pot. it is ridiculous. one would think that im a real schitzo, but id be just stoned.

as for the infatuation, GO FOR IT.

Yeah, at least you get something interesting to read, eh? But then at least I get something interesting to live, so I'm thinking - yes.

knox · 10.26.2009, 07:25 AM

a similar situation turned out to be the best thing that ever happened in my life.

but you never know, i guess what im saying is we gotta take risks.

mental note.

Keeping It Simple · 10.26.2009, 03:54 PM

Suffering a stinking cold.

Dead-Air · 10.26.2009, 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by knox

a similar situation turned out to be the best thing that ever happened in my life.

but you never know, i guess what im saying is we gotta take risks.

mental note.

Yeah, I'm not sure she's as up for the risk as I am though. Which is pretty damn fair. She'd be the one who'd have to take a huge one and go some place where she knows nobody but me. I can't leave my son behind, so I won't be doing that. Too bad, because I'd be pretty up for it otherwise (though I have a good career I really shouldn't leave too). She wants to collaborate on a cover of "Expressway to Yr. Skull" now, so I'm thinking ride the music wave for awhile and see.

knox · 10.27.2009, 07:02 AM

I know people who left their children in a different country. But you're right, I wouldn't do that.

Satan · 10.27.2009, 08:09 AM

just woke up
drinking coffee + doing bong hits
then going to work

deflinus · 10.27.2009, 08:50 AM

bong hits are part of a complete breakfast

10.25.2009, 12:50 PM	#901
knox invito al cielo Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 5,255	I know this man who got married to an american but apparently same sex marriage might be accepted but doesn't give him the right to get a greencard? they had to get a lawyer to sort it out and spend loads of money. as for what i am doing. what do you do when you feel so shit about yourself, you have a massive horrid hangover (and didn't even have fun), even moving hurts and its almost like uve had a lobotomy? __________________
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10.25.2009, 12:58 PM	#904
Genteel Death invito al cielo Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 8,744	The plan was for him to move to the UK. I know this American dude who went through hell in order to marry his partner in Liverpool, move there, and live happily forever after. They had to shell out a big amount of money (for them).
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10.25.2009, 01:16 PM	#906
nicfit invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: banana boat Posts: 15,570	Am tryin' to make room for stuff to put stuff into in a room with no room for other stuff. __________________ 11:11 11-11-11 I Ascended.
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10.25.2009, 02:03 PM	#907
deflinus expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: in the darkest part of your mind Posts: 1,737	being a lazy piece of shit for once
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10.25.2009, 05:54 PM	#911
mil_pl expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Poland Posts: 2,467	goin' to bed, take care __________________
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10.25.2009, 05:56 PM	#912
Sonic Youth 37 invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: if there is a bright spot in the universe, the farthest point from it Posts: 9,443	Reliving the album of my 11 year old self, Americana by The Offspring. This is due wholly to having a kick ass night last night that included the Time Warp and late night food runs. I still know every word to this album __________________ "One: Where's the fife? and Two: Gimme the fife."
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10.25.2009, 05:56 PM	#913
nicfit invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: banana boat Posts: 15,570	tryin' to destroy a supervirus from a friend's pc. fuck. __________________ 11:11 11-11-11 I Ascended.
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10.26.2009, 07:25 AM	#915
knox invito al cielo Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 5,255	a similar situation turned out to be the best thing that ever happened in my life. but you never know, i guess what im saying is we gotta take risks. mental note. __________________
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10.26.2009, 03:54 PM	#916
Keeping It Simple invito al cielo Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 3,721	Suffering a stinking cold.
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10.27.2009, 07:02 AM	#918
knox invito al cielo Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 5,255	I know people who left their children in a different country. But you're right, I wouldn't do that. __________________
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10.27.2009, 08:09 AM	#919
Satan invito al cielo Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: noo yawk Posts: 6,331	just woke up drinking coffee + doing bong hits then going to work
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10.27.2009, 08:50 AM	#920
deflinus expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: in the darkest part of your mind Posts: 1,737	bong hits are part of a complete breakfast
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