I want to tell this girl I love her......

GeneticKiss · 10.31.2006, 11:32 PM

SAGA OF ME & THE GIRL WHO I WORK WITH PART III:

It's been a while since I updated you guys (refer back to the threads "How Young Is Too Young?" and "A Slice Of My Life At Present") about this girl I work with (she will remain nameless for her privacy)...We've become pretty good friends, going out to dinner and last Saturday we saw a laser show with Pink Floyd together and had a great time, with the exception of my rather poor driving (I ran a red light, nearly stopped at a green light, had to make a U-turn on a one-way street, and got lost on the way back)...

One day, (this was a little while ago) we were supposed to go out after she was done working but couldn't becuz she was having surgery the next day and couldn't eat or drink after a certain time...I was done working before her, and as I left, she said "I love you" and actually blew me a kiss...

Now, she never talks about a boyfriend, although she keeps mentioning this story about nearly backing through her boyfriend's garage door in 10th grade...she never mentions him otherwise...but I find out tonight that she may be having an "overnight visit" this Saturday night...now, am I just being paranoid (which could very well be, I've had a lot of misconceptions about her, like the time she said her mom flushed her Vicodin (sp?); I thought she was popping pills, but it turned out she was just using them as pain medication, taking them as directed) or is she talking about sex? I've developed feelings for her, and I want her to know how I feel about her, but at the same time, I don't want to end up spoiling our friendship and at the same time, I can't bear to think of her with someone else...

HaydenAsche · 10.31.2006, 11:36 PM

Then, fucking do it.

Alex's Trip · 10.31.2006, 11:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by GeneticKiss

I've developed feelings for her, and I want her to know how I feel about her, but at the same time, I don't want to end up spoiling our friendship

Tell her:

"I've developed feelings for you, and I wanted you to know that. But at the same time, I don't want to spoil our friendship."

golden child · 11.01.2006, 12:05 AM

and add that you dont want to see here with anyone else.

acually, that comes out wrong... id omit that.

UVRAY · 11.01.2006, 03:50 AM

Unless you are having sex with her yourself and have agreed on a monogamous relationship then you have no claim on her.

It sounds like you have wasted time being her friend instead of just getting in there.

In many cases, if you become a girl's friend then the romantic seduction is blown.

I'm not saying you've definitely lost out just yet but there is that possibility.

Get a move on and you might get a bite at the cherry.

She's probably thinking you don't actually fancy her.

If you have slipped into that area of her mind that is "close male friend" I am afraid you might never pull it back.

As a rule of thumb if, after a lengthy period of time, sex has not occured it's probably never going to.

jon boy · 11.01.2006, 04:27 AM

just tell her, whats the option not to? wondering about it your whole life if you dont.

_slavo_ · 11.01.2006, 05:01 AM

just try it mate. just try it.

I've been in a situation like this before, I tried that and it worked out.

Trasher02 · 11.01.2006, 05:10 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Alex's Trip

Tell her:

"I've developed feelings for you, and I wanted you to know that. But at the same time, I don't want to spoil our friendship."

That is such a beautiful sentence, she'll probably fall for it.
My advice is go for it, Tell her how you feel. You'll be fine because I think she likes you.

Everyneurotic · 11.01.2006, 09:47 AM

tell
her
how
you
feel

best thing you can do in those situations, believe me.

fishmonkey · 11.01.2006, 10:18 AM

give her a ride.

Confucious is sex · 11.01.2006, 10:24 AM

If she told you she loved you and you did nothing about it then then I'd say she had every right to take that as an indication that you're not interested and to line up another bloke. Sort it out and stop being so emotionally retarded.

Danny Himself · 11.01.2006, 11:24 AM

So... how'd it go?

Saturseven · 11.01.2006, 12:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Trasher02

That is such a beautiful sentence, she'll probably fall for it.
My advice is go for it, Tell her how you feel. You'll be fine because I think she likes you.

Or her eyes will slightly widen, and a disconcerting smile will come across her face, and she'll say something like 'That's nice..'

If this happens, listen for the faint sound of a heart breaking. You'll be able to hear it.

noisemachine · 11.01.2006, 12:16 PM

Tell her if you ever find out shes sleeping with another guy you'll beat her into a coma.

If that doesn't work, just be honest and tell her how you feel. I know its fucking hard to do (it is for me at least), but if you want the relationship to develope, you have to show her your true intentions.

Rob Instigator · 11.01.2006, 12:30 PM

I think she already knows you like her dude, but she may not know your INTENT. With ladies, you should always always always make your intent known as soon as possible, because if you don;t they will decide for you , and you do not want to try and romance a lady that has already made up her mind that you are "just a friend" (it hurts like hell)

then again, she may not want a boyfriend or even a steady date, and that is her choice to make (an d it hurts like hell)

Rob Instigator · 11.01.2006, 12:30 PM

but you know what hurts more? NOT telling her you feel that way about her and thn living with that regret man.

h8kurdt · 11.01.2006, 12:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Alex's Trip

Tell her:

"I've developed feelings for you, and I wanted you to know that. But at the same time, I don't want to spoil our friendship."

Although he's a pup he is right...

!@#$%! · 11.01.2006, 01:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by GeneticKiss

SAGA OF ME & THE GIRL WHO I WORK WITH PART III:

It's been a while since I updated you guys (refer back to the threads "How Young Is Too Young?" and "A Slice Of My Life At Present") about this girl I work with (she will remain nameless for her privacy)...We've become pretty good friends, going out to dinner and last Saturday we saw a laser show with Pink Floyd together and had a great time, with the exception of my rather poor driving (I ran a red light, nearly stopped at a green light, had to make a U-turn on a one-way street, and got lost on the way back)...

One day, (this was a little while ago) we were supposed to go out after she was done working but couldn't becuz she was having surgery the next day and couldn't eat or drink after a certain time...I was done working before her, and as I left, she said "I love you" and actually blew me a kiss...

Now, she never talks about a boyfriend, although she keeps mentioning this story about nearly backing through her boyfriend's garage door in 10th grade...she never mentions him otherwise...but I find out tonight that she may be having an "overnight visit" this Saturday night...now, am I just being paranoid (which could very well be, I've had a lot of misconceptions about her, like the time she said her mom flushed her Vicodin (sp?); I thought she was popping pills, but it turned out she was just using them as pain medication, taking them as directed) or is she talking about sex? I've developed feelings for her, and I want her to know how I feel about her, but at the same time, I don't want to end up spoiling our friendship and at the same time, I can't bear to think of her with someone else...

for some reason i can't make it through this text. could you provide a short version and a clear question? i promise to answer earnestly, but i can't follow the plot of this soap opera.

GeneticKiss · 11.01.2006, 04:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Confucious is sex

If she told you she loved you and you did nothing about it then then I'd say she had every right to take that as an indication that you're not interested and to line up another bloke. Sort it out and stop being so emotionally retarded.

Hey now, I did say, "I love you too, [name of girl]."

I might see her later this week...I think I might tell her........................

Remember the song that went, "Hey little girl, I wanna be yr boyfriend"? I don't remember how the rest of it went or who sang it, and I really don't like it that much, but I can't help but identify with it right now...

k-krack · 11.01.2006, 10:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Rob Instigator

I think she already knows you like her dude, but she may not know your INTENT. With ladies, you should always always always make your intent known as soon as possible, because if you don;t they will decide for you , and you do not want to try and romance a lady that has already made up her mind that you are "just a friend" (it hurts like hell)

then again, she may not want a boyfriend or even a steady date, and that is her choice to make (and it hurts like hell)

I am going through that exact thing right now, and it is absolutely terrible. Especially because she originally trold me she likes me, and I have kissed her on a couple of occasions, and we spent hours lying next to eachother... all for "I don't really want a relationship... just friends*."

*FUCK THAT PHRASE.

10.31.2006, 11:32 PM	#1
GeneticKiss expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Pittsburgh, PA Posts: 1,666	SAGA OF ME & THE GIRL WHO I WORK WITH PART III: It's been a while since I updated you guys (refer back to the threads "How Young Is Too Young?" and "A Slice Of My Life At Present") about this girl I work with (she will remain nameless for her privacy)...We've become pretty good friends, going out to dinner and last Saturday we saw a laser show with Pink Floyd together and had a great time, with the exception of my rather poor driving (I ran a red light, nearly stopped at a green light, had to make a U-turn on a one-way street, and got lost on the way back)... One day, (this was a little while ago) we were supposed to go out after she was done working but couldn't becuz she was having surgery the next day and couldn't eat or drink after a certain time...I was done working before her, and as I left, she said "I love you" and actually blew me a kiss... Now, she never talks about a boyfriend, although she keeps mentioning this story about nearly backing through her boyfriend's garage door in 10th grade...she never mentions him otherwise...but I find out tonight that she may be having an "overnight visit" this Saturday night...now, am I just being paranoid (which could very well be, I've had a lot of misconceptions about her, like the time she said her mom flushed her Vicodin (sp?); I thought she was popping pills, but it turned out she was just using them as pain medication, taking them as directed) or is she talking about sex? I've developed feelings for her, and I want her to know how I feel about her, but at the same time, I don't want to end up spoiling our friendship and at the same time, I can't bear to think of her with someone else...
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10.31.2006, 11:36 PM	#2
HaydenAsche invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 10,755	Then, fucking do it. __________________ rip
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11.01.2006, 12:05 AM	#4
golden child expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 1,672	and add that you dont want to see here with anyone else. acually, that comes out wrong... id omit that. __________________ blind
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11.01.2006, 03:50 AM	#5
UVRAY bad moon rising Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: England Posts: 96	Unless you are having sex with her yourself and have agreed on a monogamous relationship then you have no claim on her. It sounds like you have wasted time being her friend instead of just getting in there. In many cases, if you become a girl's friend then the romantic seduction is blown. I'm not saying you've definitely lost out just yet but there is that possibility. Get a move on and you might get a bite at the cherry. She's probably thinking you don't actually fancy her. If you have slipped into that area of her mind that is "close male friend" I am afraid you might never pull it back. As a rule of thumb if, after a lengthy period of time, sex has not occured it's probably never going to. __________________ "While U.V.Ray oozes insurgence he weeps intelligence and sensitivity; an illegitimate love child of Mark Twain and John Wayne joined at the hip by the surgical wisdom of Frankenstein." www.uvray.moonfruit.com .
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jon boy invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: psycho battery Posts: 12,161	just tell her, whats the option not to? wondering about it your whole life if you dont. __________________ Sarcasm[A] is stating the opposite of an intended meaning especially in order to sneeringly, slyly, jest or mock a person, situation or thing \|@ <------- Euphoric brain cell just moments before expiration V _ \ / _ PING <-------- moments later / \ http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ljhxq...isruo1_500.gif
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_slavo_ invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Ðîññèÿ Posts: 10,886	just try it mate. just try it. I've been in a situation like this before, I tried that and it worked out. __________________ you're the boy that can enjoy invisibility
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Confucious is sex bad moon rising Join Date: May 2006 Location: Shoreditch, London, UK Posts: 183	If she told you she loved you and you did nothing about it then then I'd say she had every right to take that as an indication that you're not interested and to line up another bloke. Sort it out and stop being so emotionally retarded.
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Danny Himself invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 9,623	So... how'd it go?
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noisemachine 100% Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Santa Barbara, CA Posts: 651	Tell her if you ever find out shes sleeping with another guy you'll beat her into a coma. If that doesn't work, just be honest and tell her how you feel. I know its fucking hard to do (it is for me at least), but if you want the relationship to develope, you have to show her your true intentions. __________________ The best radio station ever: http://www.kcsb.org/?page_id=9
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Rob Instigator invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: In the land of the Instigator Posts: 27,943	I think she already knows you like her dude, but she may not know your INTENT. With ladies, you should always always always make your intent known as soon as possible, because if you don;t they will decide for you , and you do not want to try and romance a lady that has already made up her mind that you are "just a friend" (it hurts like hell) then again, she may not want a boyfriend or even a steady date, and that is her choice to make (an d it hurts like hell) __________________ RXTT's Intellectual Journey - my new blog where I talk about all the books I read.
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