I'm a miserable person that hates/despises nearly all of my friends
 

They are all just sooooo. . . eh. Uncultured heathens I say. Unrespectful lazy mongrels.

You might say I'm lazy, but I'm not. I'm simply unmotivated. Ask my friends to lift a feather and they will complain to you about how heavy it is. Ask me to lift it and I will ask why. Convince me, and I will pick it up with ease, and tell my friends it was nothing compared to the rock that I was convinced to pick up the day before.

Oh, plus my friends are freaking cheap. I don't have a job- so all the money I get is from doing odd jobs, which are infrequent. But when I have money I'm not cheap with it and I give good tips. My friends always bitch about not having money but always have it for cigarettes and they have jobs which they bitch about constantly. When I say I don't have any money, I really mean it. If I don't have any money on me, but I'm not broke, I specify.

Plus they come over to my house on the weekend, play with all my cool shit, eat food, practice guitar, all that shit- but they never tell me about any plans they make or anything they're doing.

They go to shitty punk/ska shows but don't get anything more advanced to that. So I end up going to "cool" shows with my mom.

They form these shitty punk bands that I could care less about but I invite to basement shows that I set up because I don't want to be mean.

But then when they set up shows, I have to beg them like a dog. Which I don't do. The shows they set up always end badly. A show going badly for me involves me being pissed off because a band had no etiquette. For them, it ends up with "hardcore" kids breaking stuff and the show getting ended because my friends have absolutely no discretion when it comes to picking bands to play.


So I've taken to openly insulting and berating my friends, telling them how inferior they are to me, and they just smile. They don't see that I'm using sarcasm as a mask to tell them the truth.

To me if they have money to buy cigarettes they aren't broke.

My one friend was over and my Dad happened to need to deliver some furniture to somebodies house. Just a simple bedroom set. He bitched so fricking much about lifting the dresser, when I was supporting most of the weight. And it was nothing, and I'm not a fit strong guy at all. He has never had to lift furniture made completely out of rosewood, butcher blocks, large pieces of marble or slate, or large stones.

I don't know, some of my friends are just little bitches and they really annoy me.

And my older friends are no better. I'll go to parties and they just try to get me drunk as fast as possible, and we end up throwing shit at eachother and hitting eachother.

holy ass man, if you can't find different friends, then get out of that loser town. go to philly.

but you must admit, you're bitching as well. :p

That sucks man, that is why I have been mostly isolated. But I have met several cool people at college, but we are just too busy to hang out.

I don't like my friends either, but not really for the reasons you've listed. The bad part is that I have no desire to make new ones because it always turns out the same way.

One of my pet peeves is when I hear people say that they are bored, and this is what my friends do constantly every time we're together, which thankfully isn't often anymore, though that may change this summer. They complain about being back in Washington when they could be having more fun on their school campus. They're always slagging me off for some reason or another...it's childish. I think maybe that's my problem with them in general, is that they can't just grow up, and they're just about the least interesting sort of people to talk to. One friend in particular, I just realized on Sunday when we were together, is very predictable and has nothing to contribute to anything, and the whole time I was with her I just wanted to go home and work on my essays for class the next day.

Another friend of mine has changed for the worse since going to college. Before, she was always the best person to talk to, my best friend without a doubt. Very open-minded and non-judgmental, and had interests that were different from my own though we still enjoyed each other's tastes. And now she's got herself a truly retarded boyfriend, and she has become the female version of this loser, and has no interests or goals of her own anymore. She likes everything that he likes, and she changed her major to his, and it's all really frightening and I absolutely hate talking to her now, it makes me ill.

Those are really the only two that matter because in the past they were better friends to me than anyone else. The others aren't that great anymore either, but they still irritate me less than these two.

hmm, preach on, old chap.

though i'm pretty much the most popular person in my town (no kidding and no ego attached to that statement), i hate it, and i hate that everywhere i go people recognize me and say hey to me. i just have... i am just so different from everyone. i just stand out, i guess. it's the red hair.

but yeah i have like 2 close friends now...

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And now she's got herself a truly retarded boyfriend, and she has become the female version of this loser, and has no interests or goals of her own anymore. She likes everything that he likes, and she changed her major to his, and it's all really frightening and I absolutely hate talking to her now, it makes me ill.

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That's exactly what puts me off relationships. People who abandon their own personality in favour of that of their partner. In saying that, it's probaly also true that perhaps they didn't have one to start with.

I don't like most people at all. I find the middle-of-the-roadness of most people irritating. I can't stand ordinary folk. Luckily I have really great friends thats share my sense of humour and always have something fresh to say. Lux its extremely easy to be negative about relationships, but you must remember they are two-sided. People are not perfect you will always find faults as will people find faults in you. The only way to enjoy people's company is to let go. That goes for all kind of relationships romantic or otherwise. My problem is I feel like everytime someone opens their mouth nothing but utter verbalised shit comes out and im constantly biting my tongue.

"You got problems you cant solve,
Its enough to make you start to hate your friends.
You go to a show and they stare at your face.
Dont you know?
You hate your friends.
Your face is blushing and your temperatures rising.
Drink yourself silly,
Theres no use disguising that you hate your friends.
Stare at the newspaper, nothing to say.
Theres really no use in me going away.
I think Ill go to the drugstore today.
Maybe that chicks working over there today.
When you got problems you cant solve,
Its enough to make you start to hate your friends.
You go to a show and they stare at your face.
Dont you know?
You hate your friends.
When you got problems you cant solve,
Its enough to make you start to hate your friends.
You go to a show and they stare at your face and
Dont you know?
You hate your friends.
Your face is blushing and your temperatures rising.
Drink yourself silly,
Theres no use disguising that you hate your friends.
You hate your friends.
You hate your friends.
You hate your friends."
-Evan Dando

I have some really good friends, friends that care about me and want to talk to me and spend time together everyday. I guess i am very lucky in that respect, that i have about 10 very close friends. But i am a nice person, so i attract nice people. So i think you kinda get what you give, i invest time and money in my friendships and i get that back.
Oh and my friends all have crap jobs at supermarkets etc, but they never complain about it. And they all smoke roll ups as they are cheaper.

Its true you have to invest time with people. It takes awhile for people to open up and be intresting. If you shut people off after they only speak to you once or twice you never get to know them. I have some very close friends nowadays that are just awesome and will go out of there way to help you. Life is a lot better when you have that. I do enjoy by own company aswell but thats probebly because I get just the right amount of it. My life is probebly better than its ever been nowadays.

My friends smoke rollies too. I do occasional (I dont smoke, just keep tobbaco there for if I feel like one when im drunk, stressed, or need to make a 'special' cigerette). Rolling your own is better in everyway, its cheaper, tastes better and when you actually have to roll a cigerette you think twice about it and thus resist chain-smoking.

^ i agree with most of that, i am very good an being alone, i am an only child so i have been used to my own company for a long time.

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my friends do that too, but he is yucky, he is fat and has no tail. i'd take the piss out of him too if he wasn't mine.

Haha one of the best posts i've read in a long time!

Yeah im an only child and spent most of my younger life on my own observing life and figuring everyone out. Its why I have a good understanding of the thoughts that are going through peoples head most of the time. My friends find it incredable. Being left alone from about 11-15 is great for character. I kinda observed life before I decided to live it.

Sadly enough I know exactly what you mean.
But it's probably my own fault, I'm a difficult person to be around.

i love my chums, when they are pissing me off i just say... "Lads, yr fuckin pissin me off now, sort it the fuck out" and then they usually do.. some of em need a little more persuasion than others but they sort themselves out anyways.. see i have adapted a "no nonsense" approach with my buddies in where i say what i think and dont hold back, its got me some good results so far cuz i think half of em are just plain afraid of me (well thats what i like to think anyways!)

love me ould posse though and even with all my giving out, they know i do.

I don't expect my friends to be perfect. I expect them to be at least tolerable, generally speaking, and they are not.

I used to have lots of friends, but I decided they weren't as good as me so I stopped talking to them. We jammed and partied every week in the basements, but we never defined a music style becuase we all liked different genres. Then one of them got a girlfriend, and has been her pet since. He started spending all his time and money on her and didn't care less about not seeing me, so I stopped talking to him. As for the others, well, I quit the whole "emo" thing and we haven't really talked since.

My friends live in different parts of town, and it is a hassle to go back and forth to pick everyone up to hang out. But all my high school friends used to annoy me, so I hardly talk to them. It is just life, that is telling you to grow up, and need to know how to act, that is all.

now that's the best advice i've read so far. but i should continue reading...


you need new friends. or as nefeli wisely adviced, discuss it with your former best friend-- you have nothing to lose, after all, no?


it's called growing up. as you become more of an individual, you realized that you can no longer match the expectations of the herd. well, not herd. but as a teenager it's easy to make friends-- you can be friends with practically anybody. as you develop and define your own personality, you realize it's harder to match. that's why people gravitate towards their relationships in young adulthood and relate less to their groups of friends-- it's the natural impuse to mate after all. happens to everybody.

I have already, she accused me of being jealous, which is such a cop-out.

sounds like you're going to have to wait it out until she breaks up with this dude, because when her grasp on sense and reason will eventually return to her.

yes, what t&b says is correct.

wait until this guy dumps her and she comes to your door crying because she is lost and devoid of an identity, asking you what to do.

then you can make her your bitch :D

but no, really. can't do anything right now but move on. you might be friends later or you might not, but contrary to our romantic teenage ideals, friends change as life goes on.

I've decided to let go of those who've punted me.

Movin' on !!!

True almost all of my High School friends are gone, and all that are left, are those I met in College.

if you are lucky enough you get to keep childhood friends, but when they become married accountants with 3 kids and you are a lunatic insano wannabe poet with no stable address, it's very easy to drift apart, because you stop having things in common.

True my childhood friends left when I was seventeen, and soon my High School friends did too, after i dropped ot of High School. I barely talk to them, this girl who used to be my best friend, we just drifted away. Now I am meeting new people. Its fun, cause some of them have the same taste that i have.

There ya go....that's it !

Those on the fringe get rejected....they're dangerous to their stability. :cool:

No matter where I go most people I meet just seem superficial and shallow. I've gone through many groups of friends, and I end up telling myself just to "take my friends with a grain of salt"

I think everyone is probably an outwardly superficial and shallow bitch. Myself included.

Is there some kind of theme emerging here? SY fans don't like people that much, lol. I only have a few proper friends, which include washingmachine
It's definately something I've found at uni, people just seem so boring when you start talking to them, but I then don't give them a chance which may be a problem. I spent all of school trying to fit into anyone who would have me until I was 14 where I stopped caring and now I don't think anyone is good enough for me. i think the problem is what others have said, that as you get older you have a more defined personality so it becomes more difficult to find people you fit well with.
The group of friends I had from when I was about 15-17 I used to love but now I don't see why I did.

I think alot of people on here need to re-evaluate their current friendships... obviously. In highschool I, like everyone, hung around people I didn't necessarly care for, or looking back now realise I didn't care for. But I also liked my own time and generally preferred to be alone as I'm someone who rejoices in their own company. After school, I drifted apart from them so called friends. I mean, they're alright guys I guess, but we have and did have nothing in common. I still get the occasional text msg from an old schoolfriend and when I find out who it actually is, I generally stop replying as I have no need to reform them friendships. Basicallywhat I'm saying is that it's my belief that the ones you hang around in highschool are merely people to waste time with and get through the school day - not really friends. Also, everyone should seperate from their highschool "friends" once school departs so that you can grow on your own and meet new people who are more at one with you - more choose the people you spend your time with. Because I hear stories about some of these people, what they've been up to and are doing in life now, and they're doing nothing creative or anything different than when they were in school - all living in the same area they grew up in - which makes me quite sad if I dwell on it.

As for the relationship thing, it can be hard for the friend who feels like they're being 'dissed' for the new boyfriend or girlfriend, but it's alot worse for the friend in the relationship when their friend(s) can't accept that their friend is in love and has found someone.
My girlfriend and I have been together for a couple of years now and her friends all did that to her when we started going out. They felt she spent too much time with me and they all carried on and really upset my girlfriend to the point where she basically just let them go (fucked them off). This lasted for months. NOW, they all want to be friends with my girlfriend again because they realise she has it good because she got out of their bullshit circle and they want out to. Plus some of them have found partners themselves and now completely understand what happens when you love someone.

i know exactly how you feel.

last year i had a group of "friends" (this was 8th grade) who were the most obnoxious, snotty, unintelligent group of bitches i have ever met. they were obsessed with american eagle, boys, makeup, and all that shit & they called themselves the "v.i.p. girls".

thank god i'm in highschool now.

Perhaps they'll never break up. Perhaps they've found something special and are completely happy.

Yeah, the girls I used to be close to now seem to talk of nothing but "gossip", soaps, shit TV programmes and the like, and they're 19!

I'm still friends with the people I knew from high school for the most part I get closer to them as time gets on (I say for the most part because are a few i dont hang round with like before, they get all boring).

I'm in high school (year 10) and I guess I'm one of those who is "different" too. Hahaha (don't read this post).

I have been offered a few parties in the past (these entail drinking your liver to a pate and maybe daring to take up smoking what have you all in the vicinity of the house of these parents of some spoiled bum), and they honestly don't interest me. Music that doesn't appeal to me, talking about/to people I couldn't really care less about and as the night progresses so do you on the scale of cretinism. Not the ideal night for me it seems, yet next time there is one offered that doesn't seem to bad that isn't like 500 miles from me I'll go for it because yes, after many, many nights spent in front of a computer my asperger's levels soar. Anyway, that's the line of thinking in my school, general immaturity, lack of responsibility, want of idiocy and generally an unappealing life would be spent in their company.

I'm good friends with one person at the moment (IRL), "mild" friends with quite a few and get along with most everyone (apart from other asperger's kids as they can be in really idiotic moods). I would like to get very high grades and move to one of the best 6th form colleges or whatever they are called as I'd expect there would be quite a few great characters there that I could form a band with without fearing to play some powerchord shit constantly at half the speed like Green Day.

My MySpace friends are mainly people dispersed across the world apart from at my school which pisses on one's fire...

So there we go. =/

This is a very common response, but I still am unable to make sense of it. First, there is the assumption that once you're out of high school you'll have more of a chance of meeting people who are similar to you. It's not necessarily true, because it's all based on luck. I mean, the same people who are going to these colleges are the ones who attended the high schools in the surrounding area, usually. College doesn't automatically change people for the better. Also, I can't just expect to soon meet people who are more like me. In college, I can tell that a lot of my interests still put people off in the same way they did in high school. And I don't even make a big deal out of it all--it's something that people just find out eventually, by asking questions and such.

And then you talk about the people who choose to keep living in the same area they grew up in--what of it? It's not hurting you, and it's their own personal choice anyway. Once I moved back to my hometown, after a completely disastrous semester in Chicago, a lot of people I know--including certain friends and family members--began to look down on me for something that I felt wasn't so much of a choice as a necessity. I still have to take crap about it from people who don't even understand the whole ordeal, simply because they want to believe I chickened out in some way. Who would want to live in a place where they don't feel welcome?

wow! sounds like your original "friends" were just a bunch of judgmental cockbags waiting for an opportunity to bring out their inner vulture. if that's the case, then, fuckem.

i think normaj makes a good point, but i'll reinterpret it/translate it in my own way-- i'll appropriate it:

i live in a small town now and i see this: for a lot of "normal" people, highschool is the highlight of their existence, their peak, their greatest achievement, and they remain mentally and emotionally stuck forever in that place. oh i see plenty of those, they are the kind of people who love homecoming parades and shit like that. ha ha ha.

see, it is a good thing i think to get out of your hometown and see the world and learn about it, and when you come back some day you can bring what you've learned to your community, if you want to come back. now... maybe you didn't make the right move on your first try, maybe you went to the wrong place, maybe you just weren't ready for it, but don't pay any mind to the assholes who see this as an opportunity to feel better about themselves by putting you down. they're just assholes who lack any real self-esteem.

ok. go forth & thrash now. :p

I understand that in many cases it's good to "see the world" or whatever if you have the opportunity, but it's still not for everyone, no matter which way you turn it. My only real opportunity to do so is through college, but I have no desire to spend that much time anywhere if I have to do it college style (which to me means dorm life coupled with having no actual money to do anything, because let's face it, few things come by free). The whole experience is bad enough as it is. And it's just made worse when you have to put yourself in the middle of some place that's not even familiar to you. I don't like the feeling of constantly being at college, which is how I felt in Chicago. Being in a dorm room is much worse than being in a classroom setting. And now at community college, I only spend a few hours a day at school, and then I can go home, which makes it all much more tolerable.

Like I said, I would be interested in traveling the world and etc, but it's not a realistic expectation in any way. Once I'm out of school, the opportunity probably won't present itself. And coupling school with a new place pretty much ruins the new place for me, so there is little hope that I'll ever attempt both at the same time.

Hmm... see, i understand this a bit. growing up in a 3rd-world country i of course lived at home while attending college. i didn't have to worry about money, clothes, food, anything because i had that safety net and i could devote myself 100% to studying-- same as all my school peers (it's just a different culture). however, i came to the u.s. and i was sooooo liberating to be FAR from everyone! but i know a lot of people (cousins, uncles, etc) who have lived in the same house their whole lives and they are good productive people, have healthy families, etc).

now, about dorms, they are shit, because you're a natural introvert and dorms are loud fucking horrid places with no privacy. so i understand the stress upon your nervous system. but you can still find a quite room somewhere where an adult lives & make the most of it.

in any case, yeah, going away not a model for everyone. not everyone is born to be "adventurous". emily dickinson lived all her life in the same house.

however, on the subject of friends, etc-- life changes, friends change, everyone goes off & creates their own lives whether they stay in their hometown or go abroad, and it sucks but you'll have to adapt to the fact that your highschool friends won't stay the same one way or another, and in fact if they stay the same it's a sign that something is wrong with them. you change too, everybody changes, for good or bad, and that's life.

in other words, the paradise of your childhood and teenage years is forever gone and you can't go back, i'm afraid. have a ceremony and bury it some place nice, cos it's not coming back...:(

I think Ms. Dickinson, and many other people, long to be adventurous, but are too scared or lazy to be adventurous.

I'm leaning towards lazy.