my very first show ended some hours ago.
 

and now i feel empty.
but i don't know why. i tend to always feel empty after a birthday party, after some kind of social reunion i guess. a social reunion in which there are people from completely different places but whom with i have lots of fun.
:confused:
but i feel empty.
how did you feel after your very first show or after every show you've played?

my very first show:

when this tour can to philadelphia. cheers.

what?

Drunk

I usually feel like a gangsta.

i usually feel awesome, excited and hyper.

post-partum depression

congratulations! awesome.

i guess that's it.
post-show depression.
:(
but i have post-almosteverything depression.

How long did you play ?

Sorry I don't remember how I was after my first (up until now) real gig. I guess it's normal to feel empty, especially if the show was long. In addition the brain is flooded with adrenaline and endorphines in those circumstances, so going back to "normal life" all of a sudden can feel weird.

we played for around an hour.
then we got kind of kicked out the stage because some other band was next.
the place was crowded.
it was really nice, but it felt terrible when it ended.
i'm the only one who felt like that in the band, i think.
the rest are used to playing. but i never really took any of my musical projects to the stage.
this is the first structured band i've played in.

depends on the size of the house and how much the audience appreciate the show, sometimes you get an audience like a morgue which then sucks other times they are rockin which makes your performance step up a few notches then all ist good. although in my line of performances you are usually doing a season of about 28 shows and you can crash hardish once that is all done with unless you have another to go straight to after....

I hate shows because I'm lugging all my stuff around and constantly afraid that it is going to get damaged or broken. So I mostly feel tense and paranoid. After I get everything home, then I feel empty.

I know how you feel. I get that same empty feeling after every show I perform. Sometimes during the last song I will get it because I know it's going to end. It sucks.

i get that too... everytime i go out and have an awesome jaw dropping night of fun, i always get that empty/bored feeling the next day. i would imagine cuz the night before was so bad ass and then yr sitting around doing nothing. that's why i go to the bar everynight i think.

I felt really nervous on my first gig, it was horrible.
Word

those chicks are pretty hot! f'sho

Contre is the girl on the right, fyi.

That's so cool, hope you really enjoyed it though.

ha ha

well since everything you were doing before the show was for the show then when the show is over it's like you have nothing else to do, and your brain misses the excitement/motivation/etc.

or/and if you're an introverted person who gets their energy from being alone, being in a crowd drains you & you have to recharge after. sleep is good. i often get "peopled out" & have to lock myself up in my fortress of solitude. ha. no, really.

way fucking cool!

to be honest, sometimes i feel like shit after a gig sometimes a feel nothing and sometimes i feel on top of the world,

depends how it goes really,

theres nothing wrong with any reaction and none mean you are good, bad or anything else,

like sometimes playing a really great gig can leave you emotionally drained and sort of numbs you and your emotions afterwards making it harder to comprehend how you feel about the gig,

dunno if that makes sense

that bass looks bigger than you.

Yes :D It's a Hofner (like Paul Mc Cartney) isn't it ?

It's an Univox bass guitar Hofner's style.
A friend lent it to me. I need something like it.
But first I need money to get something like it. hajsd :(

It completely makes sense. I don't think anyone in the band feels the same, anyway.
I haven't talked much about it with them, anyway.
After we were done with the show we all went to different places with our friends and then the whole X-mas shit came up. and bleh bleh bleh.

i always end up quite drained by people. but the thing is that when i'm having a good time with that people, i usually feel like shit when it's over.
anyway, i behaved in a way i never thought i would behave like in front of people (even in front of my friends)
now i can't wait to go back to rehearsing and getting another gig to play...at the same time i feel like i should calm down, as i'm just the fucking bassist in a band i don't even write the music or/and lyrics for. (at least that's how i feel about it.)

firstly congrats on yr first gig.
i remember my first one. 18 years old and with a cold, on fucking June. unbelievable, man! but I went on nonetheless.

I sometimes felt incredibly worn after a gig. one particularly, it all felt so useless. It's a drag, if you think about the current state of live music. Mostly they want djs rocking the place or something else, something that they can relate to. But the masses are quicly forgetting the way live music used to be. Right now it's all just too cruel to me.

It brings the eternal debate - why do I do it / who do I do it for? becuz ultimately it's safe to assume that being part of a musical project you should be looking forward to having an audience. All I can think of is right now, I do it just for myself.

What else can I say - I do need live shows but the way things go in my town, it's all just a drag. The best performances draw energy out of the crowd... when the crowd sucks, or there's just none... what can you do?

My last gig was very cool. In a theatrem where we got to jam with killer players. Next time around I know I would want it to be packed, but I know it's not gonna happen here. Maybe Charlie from THOUGHT FORMS will help us out for something to do in England! That would rule.

Keep up the killer work, Contre... music keeps me alive and I bet it's the same for all of us.

Do you recognize yourself in those descriptions ? http://www.socialphobia.org/whatis.html

I think you may suffer from social anxiety (as I myself do).

Yes, I think you should relax as it's not your own music you play (it's less involving), and appreciate the good experience it is.

I felt great after my first show. Terribly nervous before it started but relieved after the show was over.

My first show has been my second favourite show ever. Before the show we ate a great fish dinner + white wine with the owners, than we played a really great and fun gig, and another plus, we opened for a really nice band:

http://www.myspace.com/hcbgroup

so right after our set was finished we stayed there to see those guys playing while other people came to complment us on our "sounds" and the owners offered us beers and so on. Not much time to properly "think" about the gig itself, the atmosphere and mood were too good.

p.s. Agusta, I like your "solo" stuff better, to be honest :)

yeah, i completely underestand that you like my solo stuff better hahaha
i don't feel identified by the music of this band at all. and the lyrics...i don't usually write lyrics about boys and stuff like that. this is clearly a pop band project.
i just thought it would be a good experience to play in a band in which the songs are completely structured and have nothing to do with me, at all. (since it's impossible to me to play live what i record by myself. i don't even know what i've played to record those songs. i tend to tune the guitars in different ways. ways i don't even take note of because i just tune it and when it sounds nice, i start seeing what can be taken from it.)
when my neighbour showed me the songs i said i could play the bass guitar for her (i originally took guitar lessons, then got myself a bass guitar and learnt by myself. i was way more interested in learning more of bass guitar than guitar.)
there's this one guy playing the 2nd guitar, whose solo music sounds like mine. and he still cannot get used to or actually adapt as a musician in what this project is like. and i totally understand him. that doesn't make him a BAD musician. but that's what the rest think. and i don't know.
blah.
:confused:

my first gig was at the place i took guitar lessons, the people there formed groups between us students and then we would decide what song we should play. it was basically a showcase for parents, friends and gfs/bfs to see us.

i ended up opening the show and i played sabbath's paranoid (i was singing and playing guitar), i was so nervous my knee was shaking involuntarly; later on, i played with other people, backing one of the guitar teachers on a blues number and then i came back to play and sing nirvana's about a girl. since then, i've never felt nervous before a gig, i feel anxious.

i'm reading this. but i don't think i feel all of this.
for example, i do get really nervous when i'm walking thru an area in which i fear i'm going to run into someone i don't really feel like talking to or saying hello to. (for example, when i go to shows i know i'm going to see certain people. or at least there's high probability that i will.)

"The socially anxious person can't relax, "take it easy", and enjoy themselves in public. In fact, they can never fully relax when other people are around. It always feels like others are evaluating them, being critical of them, or "judging" them in some way."
I blame my mother for this.