Is my sister right? - Page 2

SynthethicalY · 04.09.2007, 01:11 PM

No I don't want to look desperate in the internet.

!@#$%! · 04.09.2007, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Washing Machine

Your sister is kinda right.This whole 'asking a girl out' is a kinda 13yo thing. Things should just flow naturally. You just talk to girls, find out if you like them, if you both are using flirty body language it should just happen.

quoth the kinky casanova!

look, there are no absolutes-- some times and in some circumstances asking someone to go with you to a show/movie/cup of coffee works better. say you meet someone in a place where you work, what are you going to do? shove her into the supply closet & lift up her skir? a girl in your class-- hump her in front of the teacher? please...

besides, there's something to be said for the cup of coffee. it's safe and if she's a complete loony it makes it easy to look at your watch and say "oops, i gotta get going! thanks for coffee!"

gmku · 04.09.2007, 01:14 PM

Yeah, you're right.

SynthethicalY · 04.09.2007, 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by SynthethicalY

Well I know in the gay community this is widely accepted. Meet in the club, make out, go to his/or yours aparmtnet, go to the sofa(because the bed is most sacred), make out until both are hot and heavy(horny), someone will make the first move, go down, get fully undress, finally they start having intercourse, or so other sexual thing, then get dressed and go home.

If you ask me it is such a bore, I like meeting people and actually going out on dates, and getting to know them before we have sex.

Qouted for anybody who is not interested.

SpectralJulianIsNotDead · 04.09.2007, 01:16 PM

It doesn't really matter though, the girl in question I asked out all shyly and dorkily last thursday and she told me she just wanted to be friends.

But the thing was she and her mother came over for dinner last night, so my sisters were teasing me about it before they showed up.

My littler sister told this girl that she should marry me so she can get a green card (this girl is going back to Poland at the end of the summer). I was so fricking embarassed.

Oh and my sister was like, "if you meet a guitar who keeps asking you to play things for her on the guitar, she probably likes you," which this girl did. Plus I offered to lend her a movie and she said she could just come over and watch it sometime. So I think my sister was kind of right. Oh well :/

Washing Machine · 04.09.2007, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by !@#$%!

quoth the kinky casanova!
say you meet someone in a place where you work, what are you going to do? shove her into the supply closet & lift up her skir? a girl in your class-- hump her in front of the teacher? please...

LOL I didnt mean it like that. I just think it should be natural and beautiful. Asking people out seems so calulated. Where as if you just hang out with someone you like and something happens then great...

Washing Machine · 04.09.2007, 01:19 PM

unfortunately swa(y) is right...sorry dude

SynthethicalY · 04.09.2007, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Washing Machine

unfortunately swa(y) is right...sorry dude

Unless you tell her you are terminally ill.

!@#$%! · 04.09.2007, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by SpectralJulianIsNotDead

It doesn't really matter though, the girl in question I asked out all shyly and dorkily last thursday and she told me she just wanted to be friends.

But the thing was she and her mother came over for dinner last night, so my sisters were teasing me about it before they showed up.

My littler sister told this girl that she should marry me so she can get a green card (this girl is going back to Poland at the end of the summer). I was so fricking embarassed.

Oh and my sister was like, "if you meet a guitar who keeps asking you to play things for her on the guitar, she probably likes you," which this girl did. Plus I offered to lend her a movie and she said she could just come over and watch it sometime. So I think my sister was kind of right. Oh well :/

well if you ask her dorky of course... i think your sister's advice is good if you don't take it literally. if you already had this girl in constant contact you should have cornered her against a tree or something.

luxinterior · 04.09.2007, 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Washing Machine

unfortunately swa(y) is right

!@#$%! · 04.09.2007, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Washing Machine

LOL I didnt mean it like that. I just think it should be natural and beautiful. Asking people out seems so calulated. Where as if you just hang out with someone you like and something happens then great...

ha ha yeah but getting to hang out with someone you like requires asking, no? how are you going to hang out with that hot girl with the perfect boobs who works at the bakery unless you tell her that's what you want? needn't be convoluted of course.

floatingslowly · 04.09.2007, 01:26 PM

what if she DOES just want to be friends? or maybe she's not up for anything serious before she moves back to Poland?

I think forcing your tongue on her would fix that for sure.

although asking like a shy dork might have been the reason why she said this....

the ikara cult · 04.09.2007, 01:44 PM

the ones who want to make out fast, dont allow yourself to invest yr feelings in them. But asking girls out is fine, its not easy to do but its fine.

tesla69 · 04.09.2007, 01:48 PM

I remember asking my pal D. how he met his girlfriend K. and he said he was at a party and she was standing there so he just went up to her and kissed her. I don't think that would work with everyone. She later OD'd on heroin sadly. When I was a Junior in hs I was slow dancing with this Senior who suddenly turned her face to me and stuck her tongue in my mouth, so I asked her out ("go stead") which lasted for a couple months until I realized she was very religious and tonguing was as far as she'd go.

But in my mind what your sister suggests could be construed as sexual assault.

noumenal · 04.09.2007, 01:52 PM

Don't ask girls out through email.

Washing Machine · 04.09.2007, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by !@#$%!

ha ha yeah but getting to hang out with someone you like requires asking, no? how are you going to hang out with that hot girl with the perfect boobs who works at the bakery unless you tell her that's what you want? needn't be convoluted of course.

You have a point. But my experience has either been in clubs or with people i've made friends with first (get them slowly into your web..no metaphor intended). In clubs I just get talking to people one way or another (ive never conciously tryed to chat anyone up, that all seems calucated and chessy to me) and things just happen.

the ikara cult · 04.09.2007, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by noumenal

Don't ask girls out through email.

A salient point

Rob Instigator · 04.09.2007, 02:02 PM

yr sister is either fucking with you or stupid.

ask a lady out.

SpectralJulianIsNotDead · 04.09.2007, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by noumenal

Don't ask girls out through email.

I don't. I did in person. Awkwardly.

SpectralJulianIsNotDead · 04.09.2007, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by floatingslowly

or maybe she's not up for anything serious before she moves back to Poland?

I've really been hoping that that is the case, because in that case it could actually be an ego boost for me instead of a self-esteem hit.

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gmku invito al cielo Join Date: May 2006 Location: Oxford, England Posts: 15,225	Yeah, you're right. __________________ Ever notice how this place just basically, well, sucks.
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04.09.2007, 01:16 PM	#25
SpectralJulianIsNotDead invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 7,409	It doesn't really matter though, the girl in question I asked out all shyly and dorkily last thursday and she told me she just wanted to be friends. But the thing was she and her mother came over for dinner last night, so my sisters were teasing me about it before they showed up. My littler sister told this girl that she should marry me so she can get a green card (this girl is going back to Poland at the end of the summer). I was so fricking embarassed. Oh and my sister was like, "if you meet a guitar who keeps asking you to play things for her on the guitar, she probably likes you," which this girl did. Plus I offered to lend her a movie and she said she could just come over and watch it sometime. So I think my sister was kind of right. Oh well :/
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04.09.2007, 01:19 PM	#27
Washing Machine expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Cardiff, Spiderland Posts: 1,465	unfortunately swa(y) is right...sorry dude __________________ ....Of Course its some kinda cosmic payback for being too ironic!
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04.09.2007, 01:26 PM	#32
floatingslowly invito al cielo Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 21,165	what if she DOES just want to be friends? or maybe she's not up for anything serious before she moves back to Poland? I think forcing your tongue on her would fix that for sure. although asking like a shy dork might have been the reason why she said this....
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04.09.2007, 01:44 PM	#33
the ikara cult invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: London sink Posts: 4,576	the ones who want to make out fast, dont allow yourself to invest yr feelings in them. But asking girls out is fine, its not easy to do but its fine.
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04.09.2007, 01:48 PM	#34
tesla69 Banned Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: NYC Posts: 4,055	I remember asking my pal D. how he met his girlfriend K. and he said he was at a party and she was standing there so he just went up to her and kissed her. I don't think that would work with everyone. She later OD'd on heroin sadly. When I was a Junior in hs I was slow dancing with this Senior who suddenly turned her face to me and stuck her tongue in my mouth, so I asked her out ("go stead") which lasted for a couple months until I realized she was very religious and tonguing was as far as she'd go. But in my mind what your sister suggests could be construed as sexual assault.
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04.09.2007, 01:52 PM	#35
noumenal expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 1,855	Don't ask girls out through email.
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Rob Instigator invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: In the land of the Instigator Posts: 27,975	yr sister is either fucking with you or stupid. ask a lady out. __________________ RXTT's Intellectual Journey - my new blog where I talk about all the books I read.
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