[contrelefuckingsexisme]

i've made the decision but i don't know in which context to tell, at least, the singer. it's mostly HER band. HER songs. she's the face, etc.
i feel like it's gone too far...
Ii don't know what to do, really...

[Savage Clone]

Tell her straight, and tell her one-on-one.

[contrelefuckingsexisme]

Originally Posted by Savage Clone

Tell her straight, and tell her one-on-one.

i feel like i need a context to let the whole crew know...
by "one-on-one" you mean...details?

[girlgun]

you could send her an email that says:

"people change
sorry."

i like when i get that! it's not cowardly at all and oh so respectful.

good luck, love. handle it in a way that you'd respect being told.

[!@#$%!]

Originally Posted by contrelefuckingsexisme

i've made the decision but i don't know in which context to tell, at least, the singer. it's mostly HER band. HER songs. she's the face, etc.
i feel like it's gone too far...
Ii don't know what to do, really...

you mean the pop band you posted pictures of?

say "it's not you, it's me..."

no no sorry, that was a breakup joke.

hm. don't make it personal. just say that you have other musical interests and you can still be friends. which is true, isn't it?

[Savage Clone]

Originally Posted by contrelefuckingsexisme

i feel like i need a context to let the whole crew know...
by "one-on-one" you mean...details?

I meant one-on-one as in not in front of the other people.
If it's going to be awkward.
Otherwise just call a "band meeting" and tell everybody at once if you think it won't be a volatile situation. I'm still friends with most people I've played with; even people we have kicked out of bands in the past. It's always best if you can do these things calmly and amicably.

[contrelefuckingsexisme]

thanks.

i'll see what happens.

Originally Posted by girlgun

you could send her an email that says:

"people change
sorry."

i like when i get that! it's not cowardly at all and oh so respectful.

good luck, love. handle it in a way that you'd respect being told.

[contrelefuckingsexisme]

Originally Posted by !@#$%!

you mean the pop band you posted pictures of?

say "it's not you, it's me..."

no no sorry, that was a breakup joke.

hm. don't make it personal. just say that you have other musical interests and you can still be friends. which is true, isn't it?

i think we were never friends.
i mean, her personality is mostly the reason why i want to get the fuck out...

[!@#$%!]

Originally Posted by contrelefuckingsexisme

i think we were never friends.
i mean, her personality is mostly the reason why i want to get the fuck out...

ha ha ha ok.

still, be diplomatic.

and by this, i mean lie.

no need to offend people. it's not like the internet, where we get away with it on a daily basis...

"it's not you, it's me..."

you have different musical interests and it's been fun and you thank everyone but you gotta move on.

of course if you detest the bitch you could always hit her with a brick. but the consequences could be problematic...

[contrelefuckingsexisme]

Originally Posted by Savage Clone

I meant one-on-one as in not in front of the other people.
If it's going to be awkward.
Otherwise just call a "band meeting" and tell everybody at once if you think it won't be a volatile situation. I'm still friends with most people I've played with; even people we have kicked out of bands in the past. It's always best if you can do these things calmly and amicably.

i think i'd feel a LOT more confortable if i talked about it in front of everyone. anyway, i'll see what happens. if she speaks to me one of these days...the thing is she's my neighbour and we don't even talk to each other. i think she suspects i'm sick of it all...

[!@#$%!]

Originally Posted by contrelefuckingsexisme

i think i'd feel a LOT more confortable if i talked about it in front of everyone. anyway, i'll see what happens. if she speaks to me one of these days...the thing is she's my neighbour and we don't even talk to each other. i think she suspects i'm sick of it all...

she could, you know, be using you, for your bass skills, but without love.

[contrelefuckingsexisme]

Originally Posted by !@#$%!

ha ha ha ok.

still, be diplomatic.

and by this, i mean lie.

no need to offend people. it's not like the internet, where we get away with it on a daily basis...

"it's not you, it's me..."

you have different musical interests and it's been fun and you thank everyone but you gotta move on.

of course if you detest the bitch you could always hit her with a brick. but the consequences could be problematic...

hahahaha!
yeah...wish i could.
but, yeah. i was thinking about saying something like that...because that's actually what's bothering me. i don't feel confortable anymore.

[contrelefuckingsexisme]

i think she needs to have all male band mates.

Originally Posted by !@#$%!

she could, you know, be using you, for your bass skills, but without love.

[!@#$%!]

Originally Posted by contrelefuckingsexisme

i think she needs to have all male band mates.

oh... a susanita!

run, mafalda, run...

[flophousefloozie]

Why not just tell her the truth? With decency, that is.

You'll probably be doing her a favour in the long run if you are honest.

[flophousefloozie]

Just say, "Look, this is how it is....".
Tell her you don't want to offend her, but you'd rather not lie (if that's true, of course).

[contrelefuckingsexisme]

i wish i could do that. i'd totally do it if i knew how she's going to react. she'll probably hate me, anyway.
because she might take it as an offense. because it can be kind of an offense to like...draw a line between what i want and what she wants, which are completely different things.
it's not something negotiable. it's just that's PLAIN different.

Originally Posted by flophousefloozie

Just say, "Look, this is how it is....".
Tell her you don't want to offend her, but you'd rather not lie (if that's true, of course).

[atsonicpark]

 

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Just say "fuck ya"

[!@#$%!]

Originally Posted by flophousefloozie

Just say, "Look, this is how it is....".
Tell her you don't want to offend her, but you'd rather not lie (if that's true, of course).

oh yea. tell a latin american woman "i'm sorry i don't want to offend you but your personality is horrid"

she'll claw out your eyes!!

for you canucks who don't know susanita, i've looked up some examples in english... i hope it helps to illustrate

 

[flophousefloozie]

But if you bend the truth, she might assume that you aren't being completely honest, anyway. She might jump to wrong conclusions.

Especially if you say that your interests have changed (or something), and you form a new band that will most likely be quite similar..